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Old Nov 19, 2010, 07:22 AM
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"stop minimizing it"

Interesting.
I also minimize things, but my T usually says nothing, except something like, uhm... or indeed... or she gazes at me. Like:

me: Yeah, I tried to hurt myself, but nothing really serious
she: of course not (gaze gaze gaze)

me: Well, he did something like that, but it was of no importance.
she: uhu. (gaze gaze gaze)

So this is more like a non-quote she uses
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 07:26 AM
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my T's feves are...
What just went through your head.
what were you thinking just at this verry moment?
what does it mean when you shake your head like that,are you shaking any thoughts away?
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 08:00 AM
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"so how are you today?"

Me: "I'm so pissed off"
T: "hurt"

"You are not in the reality of what is going on today. That is not your life now."

The one I HATE: "What do you want to do? - where do you want to go from here?"
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 09:20 AM
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(before doing our breathing exercise):

T: Is it OK if I move closer?

(while doing breathing exercise):

T: "Let your body breathe you."

Also:

"This moment is the only moment we have control over."

"Who just showed up?" (when doing parts work)

"Given your history, that makes perfect sense."

"How does that feel in your body?"

"It's normal to have feelings. Feelings are human."

"How are you feeling about this relationship?"
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 09:33 AM
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T: (Asks some question)
Me: I don't know.
T: Yes, you do.

I do have to say. He has me trained. I rarely say "I don't know" anymore. He has forced me to get more in touch with my own thought processes.
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 09:42 AM
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Whenever I ask my T something personal she always comes back with
" this is not about me, this is your hour"

Ok well in my hour I want to know something about you! Now it is a joke. Whenever I go to ask her something I say : I know you are not going to tell me anyways but....."

Also another one is " why the tears? what are you feeling right now?"

My T. is one of the most amazing ladies ever. Everything she tells me I take to heart.
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 09:54 AM
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This thread is fascinating to me. Thanks, jilliebean, for starting it. I like reading what other Ts say!

Yes, my T tells me to breathe and when I come in and she sees or I say how scared I am, says or asks: How about doing some breathing first? Then she does it with me.

When doing IFS: Where in your body do you feel it? (I hate that question, though)

"Don't try to figure it out."

"Don't fight it" That was when I almost cried once. I wish I had. I loved her saying that to me, even though I couldn't cry.

What does that part want to tell me?

Posting in this thread is making me miss my T an awful lot, and appreciating her an awful lot too.
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 11:04 AM
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This thread is fascinating to me. Thanks, jilliebean, for starting it. I like reading what other Ts say!

Yes, my T tells me to breathe and when I come in and she sees or I say how scared I am, says or asks: How about doing some breathing first? Then she does it with me.

When doing IFS: Where in your body do you feel it? (I hate that question, though)

"Don't try to figure it out."

"Don't fight it" That was when I almost cried once. I wish I had. I loved her saying that to me, even though I couldn't cry.

What does that part want to tell me?

Posting in this thread is making me miss my T an awful lot, and appreciating her an awful lot too.
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 11:16 AM
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When doing IFS: Where in your body do you feel it? (I hate that question, though)
YES!! I am not doing IFS...least I don't think so...but he asks that a lot. That and "what color is that feeling"....I'm like color?? WTF???
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 11:29 AM
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What are IFS??
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 11:35 AM
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thought of another one:

-feelings are time-limited
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 11:36 AM
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What are IFS??
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interna..._Systems_Model
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 08:06 PM
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my T says "where did you go?" too. Interestingly, when I read that in echoes' post above, I immediately felt kind of lightheaded and heard ringing in my ears, which is what I'm usually feeling when she says that, lol!
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Old Nov 19, 2010, 09:00 PM
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She doesn't really have many catch-phrases, but there is one that I've noticed: "On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest, how are you [insert here]....?

other vignettes she's said that have stayed with me for some reason or another:

- once, I showed her a picture of me and my dad when I was a baby. She said "Your dad was so handsome...I would say 'fox' but then I sound like I'm dating myself!" LOL!!! it didn't bother me, I thought it was hilarious

- "You thought enough of her to tell her you loved her. And that's a very precious thing to tell someone."

- "so what's so bad about you?"

- "what are you thinking right now?"

- "I can see why you and her are such great friends."

- "Again, I'm not an M.D., but...."

- I told her about how I went to a football game with my friend, and she was drunk by halftime. While we were in line for more beer (ha) this friend put her arm around me really tight and said "Aghhhhh I love you, rrghhhamfghfaghhhhh..." T: "Kind of like 'I love you, man?'" haha

"You are actually a very emotional person."

"Sorry you've been having a rough time of it lately."

"I think that was a beautiful dream you had."

"You look REALLY sad!" (right before I started to cry)

"I'll be thinking about you over the next few days."

[in the months after my father's death, in response to something I said] "It does suck that he's gone, and it's sucks that you had to lose him so young."
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Old Nov 20, 2010, 02:42 AM
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Well, yeah but that is probably true. Don't want to overdose you know.
Well yeah but I wouldn't "wake up" dead than , would I ?
Once again, I feel like I walked into a private room....
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Old Nov 20, 2010, 11:11 AM
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I love the things T says to me.

"What are you feeling right now?"
"Why are you hiding?"
"It's okay."
"I'm here."
"I'm not going to disappear and you aren't going to disappear either."
"How little do you feel right now?"
"How are you doing vis-a-vis me?" to ask about my connection/attachment to her
"What's going on in there?" if I wont' talk but she can tell I'm thinking about something
"It's okay to have needs."
Thanks for this!
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Old Nov 20, 2010, 11:40 AM
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I still remember when she said, "Ah, you're stubborn!" like she'd discovered something totally unheard of and fascinating about me

My favorite phrase of hers though has to be, "It's not like that." That was so helpful to me because it meant I could reject that imagined scenario (one of millions) and move on to another and try it out.

I also liked, "Not with that attitude!" when I was being bratty. I still use that on myself when I catch myself being deliberately obnoxious.
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Old Nov 20, 2010, 03:33 PM
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I love the things T says to me.

"What are you feeling right now?"
"Why are you hiding?"
"It's okay."
"I'm here."
"I'm not going to disappear and you aren't going to disappear either."
"How little do you feel right now?"
"How are you doing vis-a-vis me?" to ask about my connection/attachment to her
"What's going on in there?" if I wont' talk but she can tell I'm thinking about something
"It's okay to have needs."
I need my T to ask me more questions, and I need to stop shutting him down. I'm an a#$#$ sometimes.
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Old Nov 20, 2010, 05:04 PM
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I love the things T says to me.
"How are you doing vis-a-vis me?" to ask about my nnection/attachment to her
your T actually says "vis-a-vis" ?
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Old Nov 20, 2010, 05:05 PM
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I still remember when she said, "Ah, you're stubborn!" like she'd discovered something totally unheard of and fascinating about me .

yeah. Mine said, "Oh... a little passive aggressive behavior here"
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Old Nov 20, 2010, 05:45 PM
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when she asked me to read a paragraph out of a letter i wrote she said "I meant out loud"it accually made me crack up and i was accually able to read it.i was reading it to myself it was so funny at the time
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Old Nov 20, 2010, 05:49 PM
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when she asked me to read a paragraph out of a letter i wrote she said "I meant out loud"it accually made me crack up and i was accually able to read it.i was reading it to myself it was so funny at the time
My t has said that one to me so many times that now she just clears her throat as i read silently and looks at me funny. now i'm the one that says "oh, you mean out loud?"
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Old Nov 20, 2010, 07:02 PM
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My t has said that one to me so many times that now she just clears her throat as i read silently and looks at me funny. now i'm the one that says "oh, you mean out loud?"
I've had the opposite! I had a piece of paper she'd written on and I'd added some things to. I gave it to her and said that was what I wanted us to talk about today. She asked me if she could read what I'd added. I thought she meant out loud, so said no. She and I looked at each other and then she said "I'm not sure how far we'll get talking about it if I'm not allowed to read it... and besides, I'm really curious now!" and we both burst out laughing. So she read it in her head, which is what she'd meant in the first place

I really can't think of any repeated phrases she uses. My previous T had a little bank of expressions, like she was reading from a script, and it often made me want to shake her! But my current T is just herself, responding to what I'm saying, and it doesn't feel stereotyped or scripted at all.
Thanks for this!
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Old Nov 20, 2010, 07:29 PM
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your T actually says "vis-a-vis" ?
Hmmm, I say vis-a-vis sometimes. Is there something you don't like about it, SAWE? Or just when a T says it?
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Old Nov 20, 2010, 08:17 PM
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I don't know why, but I'm cracking up at this vis-a-vis "discussion". I'm not making fun of the expression, though I've never in my life used it, I just can't stop laughing!!!!

Thanks! I needed a good laugh!!! Ow, my stomach hurts from laughing. No, I'm NOT drunk.
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