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Old Nov 21, 2010, 02:04 PM
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Hi guys. I was wondering... A lot of you guys mention "parts" of the self. I'm not sure I know what this means. Now, I have heard this before, both with DID people and non-DID people. I do not have DID, but one conversation I had with my T he mentioned something about "parts" and how we all have parts of ourselves. This was the only conversation where he ever really made that perfectly clear.

I was sorta taken aback by it when he said that-- I was like, "what do you mean, I'm one person, I don't like that word "parts" you make me sound broken or whatever". He said it was normal that all of us have parts of ourselves, but I don't know what he REALLY MEANT. I don't really get the context he was speaking about. I have nothing to relate it to, and I don't like to think of myself as being anything less than a unified person.

Now I'm not afraid that I have DID or anything like that because I know that I don't. I suppose I'm just afraid that he might think I have something else wrong with me than originally assessed or that I have more trauma to discuss than I have been doing. Anyone understand this? Do I have something to be worried about?

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Old Nov 21, 2010, 02:17 PM
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i don't have DID either, but my t talks about parts. she described t to me like an orchestra. i picture it as the loud part of my personality is like the tuba, the shy part is like the picalo, then there are the child part, the parent part and the stubborn part...... for me right now, the child part is acting up, so the parent part (which i barely have) is trying to calm it down. i think it's some of the IFS stuff people mention. http://www.selfleadership.org/
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Old Nov 21, 2010, 02:50 PM
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i don't have DID either, but my t talks about parts. she described t to me like an orchestra. i picture it as the loud part of my personality is like the tuba, the shy part is like the picalo, then there are the child part, the parent part and the stubborn part...... for me right now, the child part is acting up, so the parent part (which i barely have) is trying to calm it down. i think it's some of the IFS stuff people mention. http://www.selfleadership.org/
Thanks for the link. I have no idea what IFS is...I'll give the website a good read over.

I don't know if I like that explanation because (and this is probably just my own hang up about it), it seems to infantilize me. I am one person who acts in different ways towards different people, different situations, different circumstances. It doesn't make me any less "whole". I think I was slightly offended by his remark because it seemed to imply that I was less than whole and in some way behaving "inappropriately" or otherwise unbecoming, or "not well enough" which I equate to not up to par.
Perhaps I don't understand it very well.

Maybe this conceptual framework is better suited to people with different types of problems than I have.
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Old Nov 21, 2010, 02:56 PM
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hmmm...I wonder if you can think of it more as "sides" than "parts"? Just a guess...cause I am not fully educated on IFS or anything like that. I am not DID either, but there are many different "sides" to me. There is the side that likes to take care of everyone around me, then there is the side of me that would like to be cared for. Both me, whole me...but seen from different angles.
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Old Nov 21, 2010, 03:02 PM
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It's probably more like parts of your personality that you share. For example, you have a work persona, a personal life persona, a public persona...etcetera....but they are all part of you, so it's all good.
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Old Nov 21, 2010, 03:03 PM
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Maybe this conceptual framework is better suited to people with different types of problems than I have.
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i'm sure i didn't explain it well. the website explains it much differently.

i'm not sure if it works better for people with different types of problems, or if it has more to do with how we think. i'm a very visual person and work better with word pictures. i don't think of it as something being wrong, but more of a method to work through stuff.
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Old Nov 21, 2010, 03:08 PM
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hmmm...I wonder if you can think of it more as "sides" than "parts"? Just a guess...cause I am not fully educated on IFS or anything like that. I am not DID either, but there are many different "sides" to me. There is the side that likes to take care of everyone around me, then there is the side of me that would like to be cared for. Both me, whole me...but seen from different angles.
I read a bit on that IFS website you gave me. I think I understand why my T doesn't bring this up (except that one time) in my own therapy. I think in many ways I have moved past the "roles" in my own dysfunctional family and no longer really play a part. I am always present with myself ("The Self"). I have good "boundaries" (even though my own family doesn't seem to have very many of these).

I feel glad that I think my T really does know me well enough to know that bringing up IFS subjects would likely not resonate with me.
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sp, sometimes Ts talk about having an inner child and in IFS they see it as being inner children. i was pretty freaked out at first at the thought of there being a bunch of inner children running around, lol, but then i think their analogy to freud's id, ego, and superego is pretty good. if it isn't helpful to you though then it's fine to approach therapy from a different modality.
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