[PTSDlovemycats]

Hi guys i really need your help. I found my dad downstairs in my bedroom 2day. I didn't say anything but i was pissed for him crossing my boundaries. Anyway he doesn't like me taking medication. He doesn't think that i need it but i do. He came downstairs to talk to me tonight and told me he found my medication and now has no choice and he is kicking me out of the house and i am no longer welcome in the house, I don't know what to do or where to go. I won't have enough money for my own place for about 2 months or so. The easy solutionn would e to stop taking my meds but i can't right now. I don't know where to go or what to do, Please help. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

[Dark_Dreams]

Has he told you why he doesn't want you taking meds? Was you not taking meds a condition of you living there in the first place? Have you told him you won't have the money to move for a couple months?

I am not in Canada so I don't know all the legal issues, but if you are a resident there you can very well fight him on kicking you out and he should have to go through formal eviction proceedings though that can get kind of messy and I don't know if you want to take it that far.

can you just hide your meds and make sure they are on your person so he doesn't find them and just tell him fine you won't take them? I don't generally condone telling lies but in this case yoru safety and health should come first.

I'm sorry he is acting like this. I can only imagine how stressful this all is.

[Nola22]

Do you have any other family to whom you can turn? Where's your mom? How about friends with whom you can room or couch-surf until things blow over?

I'm not trying to be intrusive, just hoping my questions, whether you choose to answer them or not, might offer options to you in this situation.

Why is your father so anti-medication?

What you're going through sounds awful--hope a reasonable solution can be reached ASAP. Which makes me wonder if there is anyone who can talk with your dad, reason with him, and get him to back off a bit? Maybe see the world through your eyes instead of his own perspective? Try to think of any mediator-type relatives you have that he also respects who may take up your cause.

Best of luck!

[PTSDlovemycats]

Originally Posted by Nola22

Do you have any other family to whom you can turn? Where's your mom? How about friends with whom you can room or couch-surf until things blow over?

I'm not trying to be intrusive, just hoping my questions, whether you choose to answer them or not, might offer options to you in this situation.

Why is your father so anti-medication?

What you're going through sounds awful--hope a reasonable solution can be reached ASAP. Which makes me wonder if there is anyone who can talk with your dad, reason with him, and get him to back off a bit? Maybe see the world through your eyes instead of his own perspective? Try to think of any mediator-type relatives you have that he also respects who may take up your cause.

Best of luck!

Well my best friend is away with her right now, I will t alk to her about letting mme stay a few nights at her place when she gets back. My parents are together. The rest of my family is hoursaway so that is out of the question. He is anti-medicaton because his father died from medication before. But that was completely unrelated and not the same as what I am taking.

[Nola22]

If your parents are together, doesn't your mom have any say in what your father is trying to mandate here?

I'm sorry about your grandfather and your dad's resultant fears, but someone has to delineate the difference between your meds and what may have gone wrong with your dad's father ASAP. Your mom sounds like the obvious choice, but you're going to have to get someone to help him see he's mixing up two entirely different situations, based on a common element that isn't even precisely what took his father from him.

Upside, your dad loves you and doesn't want to lose you. He's trying to force your hand by threatening to kick you out, and even following through.

Please, get some help from someone he'll listen to, someone who can explain your situation. I don't know your age, but if you're a minor, I would assume children's services can do something for you.

[PTSDlovemycats]

My mom goes along with what my dad says. I don't know who could talk to him to change his mind. I have tried before with no success. Unfortunately I am no longer a minor.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats

Hi guys i really need your help. I found my dad downstairs in my bedroom 2day. I didn't say anything but i was pissed for him crossing my boundaries. Anyway he doesn't like me taking medication. He doesn't think that i need it but i do. He came downstairs to talk to me tonight and told me he found my medication and now has no choice and he is kicking me out of the house and i am no longer welcome in the house, I don't know what to do or where to go. I won't have enough money for my own place for about 2 months or so. The easy solutionn would e to stop taking my meds but i can't right now. I don't know where to go or what to do, Please help. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

here is a link with a whole listing of places you can go as a drop in and for shelter. they can help you get other housing arrangements...

http://www.bchousing.org/programs/ESP/shelter_list

[3velniai]

I'd say lie today (like Dark Dreams said) and figure out a way to move out as soon as possible. Telling lies isn't a good thing of course, but seriously, I don't know what else can you do, unless finding someone to talk to him helps. You should try that again too. What if you would ask your doc to talk to him? I think your doc knows better if you should take meds or not and your dad is being very unreasonable about the whole thing.

(((((((((((PTSD)))))))))))))))

Wow, I am so sorry. It's so hard (and sometimes impossible) to reason with people when they are coming from a place of deep-rooted fear from the past. What an awful situation for you.

I agree with the posters above....it seems like your two choices are to find a friend to stay with, or lie about the meds. I guess a third choice would be to ask your treatment provider to talk to your father about what you are taking, and why, and how it's different from what his father took. Maybe if your therapist talked to him, she/he could help him work through his fear a little bit and see how this is different. When I was looking for therapists, I talked to my T for 10 minutes on the phone, and he said some things that caused a total internal shift....before we had ever met, before his was my T, before I had even PICKED him to be my T. So sometimes, a lot can be accomplished in a short phone call.

I'm sorry you're in this situation

[elliemay]

Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats

Hi guys i really need your help. I found my dad downstairs in my bedroom 2day. I didn't say anything but i was pissed for him crossing my boundaries. Anyway he doesn't like me taking medication. He doesn't think that i need it but i do. He came downstairs to talk to me tonight and told me he found my medication and now has no choice and he is kicking me out of the house and i am no longer welcome in the house, I don't know what to do or where to go. I won't have enough money for my own place for about 2 months or so. The easy solutionn would e to stop taking my meds but i can't right now. I don't know where to go or what to do, Please help. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

If you don't mind me asking, what medications are they?

[PTSDlovemycats]

Thanks for all of your responses and suggestions. It means a lot to me. I still don't know what I am going to do or where I am going to go. I went online today and found out that in order to qualify for subsidised housing in British Columbia you need to have a child, that seems absolutely rediculous to me as I am unable to have children due to health reasons right now. Anymore suggestions or advice would be appreciated. Thanks again everyone!

[WePow]

sending you tons of safe hugs... my only suggestiong might be to see if you can get into a roommate situation or perhaps see if your community has anything that pair people up where you could afford it?

[PTSDlovemycats]

thanks WePow i am going to get in touch with my est friend as soon as she gets back in town.