[The Poet]

i moved several months ago to a new city. i moved from a T that was great and who i saw for almost 3 years.

since moving here, all the T's i've tried have sucked. either their style was wrong, our click was wrong, or they were poorly trained.

however, i keep in contact with the old T... talking to her 2 times a week, by phone. She stated she would do this until I got into a comfortable and working relationship with a new T.

do you think that i could be purposely sabotaging any new T relationship because that would mean i would lose my old T?

[Elana05]

Hi Poet.

Well, things aren't so black and white... don't come down hard on you because of it. It may be a bit of both. This would be something to talk to your T about on the phone. I can say I did not want to leave my old T (she had to retire). It made my insides turn to mush and I broke into sobs for weeks. I saw 3 other people and the 4th person felt only "ok." But after about 8 sessions the ok started to turn into more than ok and actually very helpful. It took me awhile to realize she was different, had a different manner than my old T. But now I feel thankful to have this new way of working and I have learned a lot. ie: I wouldn't go back now.

[Sannah]

Sounds very possible. What do you think?

[ECHOES]

It would be hard not to compare, and hard not to realize you are comparing apples to oranges

It makes sense that you'd want to find a similar therapy experience.
Can you remember what it was like with your old T when you began therapy? I'm wondering if there were some similar feelings and thoughts, but then that therapy and relationship evolved over time, and became something different from what it was when you started.

Can you old T give you some ideas for how to choose a new T, such as the T's orientation?