thought i was done

Well I thought I was done with therapy at the end of 2010 and i would just let them close my case. I didnt realize how much therapy helps me stay balanced in many ways. so i called and left a message with my therapist to schedule an appointment. I dont want to get into details but there is alot going on since Christmas Eve and I am not dealing well emotionally. I NEED to see my therapist VERY soon. I just hope she has an appointment opening this week or next week. blah blah sorry im rambling...thanks.

How long were you in therapy? Why do you think your case should be closed? Was that a mutual decision between you and your therapist?

I ask these questions, because I have wondered the same about myself. When is it time to quit?

Some people do not others in their lives that can provide a stable, compassionate, supportive relationship for them. I feel that they need someone that they can turn to.

A therapist provides that for many of us. I had no idea how much going into therapy would help. I fought going for years!

As long as your insurance will pay for it, or you have the financial means to go, I would say don't quit. Always keep the door open.

Sorry you have been struggling because of things in your life at the moment Melissa; I hope your T has a spot to see you too.

Good that you weren't to proud to admit that therapy helps. I don't think we're eve "done" as such, and being able to keep it open is a very big bonus in lifes struggles.

I'm sorry you have all that to deal with now. I'm glad you can return to see your therapist. Therapists often say you can return if you need to after you quit therapy--your return just came a bit more quickly than you probably thought it would. It's OK to reach out to your therapist when you need help. Hope you get an appointment soon.

Therapists do keep us grounded. I don't have a very strong support structure, so being able to see my T weekly is very important for me.
I also kept denying that I needed to be in therapy. Well, I really didn't notice there was a need for it. Now I NEED my weekly sessions.

all i can say is.... I'm wearing your "shoes." I know how this feels dont feel bad for returning.

appointment this wednesday at 9am. I dont know how I feel about all this right now...almost kinda numb right now i guess. i dont know...too physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted to really think about it at this point.

(((((Melisssa)))))) it is good that you reached out when you needed your T.
It is OK to need to have that person as a contact. Even my T has his own T. He may go for months without needing to see his T and then he needs to go see him a few times. There is nothing wrong with turning to a professional for help when needed. That takes courage and smarts both.

((( Melissa ))))

I'm sorry you're going through a rough time. It's great though that you reached out to your T and made an appointment. That's good self-care. If you need support in the meantime, PC is certainly the right place! We're here....

Melissa, I ended my therapy too and have been coping well for the past few months. But tonight I realized for the first time that I'm now on my own to cope. Not sure how well I'll do solo...but I keep telling myself I coped before therapy, I coped between therapy sessions, and I'm hoping i'll cope now too. Its good that your able to go back if you need to.

My T is the only person I truly believe wants to help me and understands my pain the most of any one in my life). Even though the talk can be very difficult at times (and my T pushes me for my own good). I feel safe there and wish I could spend much more time there, rather than one hour a week. Stay with it !!!

I quit but only made it 3 months...glad I went back, because some bad events happened a few years later. At the same time, I absolutely hate having to "cling" to someone so much and the relationship will never be reciprocated. Sigh.

ok i posted this in another forum but thought i would add it in here. i am seriously stressing there is alot going on in the family and life in general and I am not coping too well. hence the therapy appt today(wednesday) but a part of me doesnt even want to do that all i want to do is crawl in bed and stay there for a few weeks until all this blows over. ugh!! what to do???

Please see your T - she'll be able to help you feel grounded and work through your issues. She can help you learn how to cope with the everyday stress in your life

i think all this stress is making me physically sick too...how else do you explain no fever, chills, and nauseausness. i cant take this...I wish i could make it all stop for a little bit...sleep it away or something. I dont even know if T can really help me...hasnt done much for me recently im sure T just thinks im a nutcase. eh well guess i do too...

(((Mel)))

Your T will never think you are a nutcase - and you know you aren't one too. You just have some issues that you need to work through, and they can be overcome - thinking of you

thanks sugahorse. I dont know alot but i do know i feel like i am completely losing it. Im at work crying because of it all that is so NOT cool. oh well thats my life right now.

I was in that place yesterday. Can you tell your boss you're sick (Technically you are) and go home? Just climb into bed and rest.
When can you see your T again?
I'd also write down exactly what you are feeling NOW. It'll be hard to recount it properly tomorrow. Then make an effort to see your T and let her read your notes on your feelings. A T will help you work through this.

I know right now is painful. We need to learn which of these feelings are genuine, and which need to be discarded. Then we need to analyse the legitimate feelings and work out where they come from. This is a BIG part of therapy.

Sorry things are so tough!

I see T in a half an hour. I will be crawling in bed to sleep some of it off afterwards. I did not have a chance to write everything down but it hasnt settled much. thanks sugahorse I'll get through this i always do. We'll see how therapy goes today.

Holding thumbs for you - make sure you take your notes along; it starts the conversation, which then just rolls along
(((hugs)))

Mel I hope your T can provide you with a calm place to regroup. I think everyone needs a safe place to retreat to.

thanks. i feel so stupid for needing to see T again. I dont know why but I do. Oh well will see how this goes and go from there. I really wish I didnt need a T anymore. Oh well just gotta do what I gotta do it.

You're probably with your T already, so this is a bit late, but I'm thinking of you and I hope it went well!

thanks everyone it went well just needed a safe place to vent going to continue seeing her every 2-3 weeks or so. Until some of these big stressors subside.