Sitting with grief

My thoughts are with you.

Oh, Chris, I don't think this is selfish. I think it is honoring her and preserving wonderful memories of her.

Crying makes perfect sense. My thoughts are with you and I hope you have some peaceful moments as you are going through this.

I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

(((((((((((((((((((((( chris )))))))))))))))))))))

my prayers for your sister & yourself.

(((Chris)))
I wish I had a good pearl of wisdom to say, like you so often do...but I don't.

I am so very sorry for your pain, your grief and for Kathy.
You are in my thoughts.

wow chris i am so sorry to hear about your sister .you both are in my thoughts

I don't know you at all, but here's a (((hug)))

Chris,

I'm so very sorry to hear about your sister! I know the grief feels overwhelming right now. I totally understand why you need to stay where you are, rather than seeing her in her current state. I'm sure she knows you love her very much. We're holding you here at PC.

chris,

wow, this is awful. i'm so sorry to hear about your sister. good for you for not wanting to see her like that.. it's about focusing on her life, not her pain. it's not selfish at all.

keep doing what you're doing, and check back in with pc to keep us posted..


seventyeight

(((((farmergirl))))) I am glad you have your T. It is OK to be grieving now. Thinking of you and your sister this morning....

(((( Chris ))))

I am keeping you and your sister in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry that you are enduring such heartwrenching pain.

I am so sorry to read that you are going through this farmergirl. Sending a prayer your way

Sorry about your sister. I lost my father in '02....I've been there too.........

That is great your T is there for you like that. I'm sorry about your sister.

Just wanted to add my support at this very difficult time. I am sorry you are going through this.

Kathy passed away this afternoon. I'll write more when I feel more up to it. Thank you for all of your prayers.

I'm sorry.

((((((farmergirl)))))) my heart goes out to you in your sorrow, I am sorry.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

Take good care of each other and yourself.

((((((((((((((Chris)))))))))))))))))

I am so very sorry. I hope you can find some moments of peace as you remember your time with her. I know she knew that you loved her very much.

I don't post much but I read often. I'm sorry, farmergirl.

I guess I'll go over the sequence of events yesterday. I had an appointment with my t in the morning. Of course it was spent talking about my sister. He was proud of me for setting that boundary and not rushing down to Houston to be with the family. I knew what I needed to do to take care of myself during this crisis, and I followed through.

About noon I talked to my mother and the doctors had pinpointed her pneumonia as a streptococcus pneumonia, so they were feeling hopeful that they could get her on the right antibiotics. There plan was to do a procedure in the afternoon to drain fluid off of her lungs. They knew going into the procedure that it was risky, but they were out of options. During the procedure her heart stopped and restarted itself once, then it stopped again and they had to restart it for her. At that point, the doctor told the family that he wouldn't take any further heroic measures with her; it was time to let her go. They removed her from the ventilator and she died peacefully within minutes.

My heart is broken. Kathy was a spectacularly special individual who touched the lives of countless people. I haven't stopped crying. I suspect I won't until after the funeral on Saturday.

We are leaving for Houston tomorrow morning, so I won't be around for a few days.

Keep your loved ones close.

((((( CHRIS )))))

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss and the pain that you and your family are enduring. It's awful. SO awful. You are all in my thoughts and prayers during this extremely difficult time. I am so sad for you.