[sailboat]

I've made a decision a few weeks back that it's time for me to not necessarily look for a new T but see "what's out there".
But I'm too scared. I really think it's helpful because my T and I seem to be stuck in our relationship and I need to see what other Ts are like to make a decision or appreciate my T more.

But I just can't stop worrying what will happen. Or I'm too scared to find that consult T would be better and then I would have to terminate with T and I just can't do that.
I feel trapped somehow. Even though it's my decision.

So, what's the worst that can happen?
Or can you tell me why it would be good to see consult T? I need some reassurance.

[Marie123]

You aren't "trapped." It only feels that way; if you feel as if the relationship is at a standstill, it is a good idea to interview other t's......it is always good to ask questions about their practice, who do they work with, rules on contact between sessions, missed appointments, how long in practice, etc..etc.....Unfortunately, every t isn't a good fit.

[lastyearisblank]

Go see! All you're risking is a copay. Your therapist will NEVER KNOW. !

[maggyjo]

I did just that. And it sucked! But I am glad I did it. It was hard to tell my old T goodbye and I am not even sure new T is the best thing But now I know I can do it. And whatever happens I can keep doing what I need to do to find the best fit for me.

You'll never know unless you try.

Maggy

[BlackCanary]

My experience - The consult with the other T was odd. She pushed me a bit in the one session, which seemed OK. BUT she was over 10 min late when I was first appt of the day. No apology.

I left realizing that I had a very solid connection with originalT. I took a deep breath and went back, tried to put more of myself into it. We continued to work, and struggle. Eventually originalT left for a new job.

NewT is much better!

good luck to you