[Suratji]

I know this has been discussed already but I just wanted to share again how much it improved our dynamic when T and I sat on floor together yesterday for the first time. It was magical the difference. I wish I could explain it. Something about feeling grounded and safer. Sitting cross-legged is natural for me because of many years of meditation practice so being on the floor may not have the same kind of comfort level for others that it does for me.

The sense of a new powerful connection with T was overwhelming. We were closer together and the energy between us was supportive and calming. Not that I haven't felt her support before but yesterday it was different.

Amazing how much difference it can make the way 2 bodies are physically positioned in relation to each other. For me, sitting on floor with T, a wave of compassion generated by T flowed over me.

[granite1]

i love sitting on the floor in T

[SpiritRunner]

Originally Posted by Suratji

I know this has been discussed already but I just wanted to share again how much it improved our dynamic when T and I sat on floor together yesterday for the first time. It was magical the difference. I wish I could explain it. Something about feeling grounded and safer. Sitting cross-legged is natural for me because of many years of meditation practice so being on the floor may not have the same kind of comfort level for others that it does for me.

The sense of a new powerful connection with T was overwhelming. We were closer together and the energy between us was supportive and calming. Not that I haven't felt her support before but yesterday it was different.

Amazing how much difference it can make the way 2 bodies are physically positioned in relation to each other. For me, sitting on floor with T, a wave of compassion generated by T flowed over me.

awesome!

[inbloom]

You guys, am I just really weird?? I have been with my T off and on for 16 years and it has NEVER crossed my mind to sit on the floor?? I would be really uncomfortable asking, too, and I can't imagine my T ever doing it. It makes me wonder, though, if other patients of his have done this in his office???

Suratji, I think that it's so great that you found this comforting space in your T's office. That is just what you needed so that you could move forward on your journey! Yay, you!!

I am a floor sitter! It was a major breakthrough for me in therapy. I don't do it all the time, but when I feel like I need to, she has no problem with it. She and I sit in the floor and have a very nice conversation. It can be very relaxing and therapeutic. I love it!

[lastyearisblank]

I love it when you feel that connection that goes beyond words with someone. That sounds very healing and like a great idea! I wonder if she'll try that with other clients now.

[karebear1]

I have for a long time wanted to sit on the floor in therapy- just not much space to do that. BUMMER.

[Suratji]

I got the idea from Squiggle and I am very grateful to her.

(((((((((((Suratji))))))))))))

When T and I sit on the floor, it feels so safe to me. Something about being down there surrounded by all of the furniture - it feels contained.

I'm so glad that you tried that with T, and that it worked for you. Sometimes little changes in therapy (like where we sit) can make a BIG difference.

Originally Posted by Suratji

I got the idea from Squiggle and I am very grateful to her.

You are SO welcome! It just kinda happened with me that day. I made up my mind that I was 'going there' (deepest issues to be revealed) in therapy that day, and I was going to do whatever it took to get there!

So with pillow, blanket, CD player, CD, journal notes, dressed in sweats and Tshirt, I went in her office ready to DO IT! Cry, scream, roll in the floor, etc.....I didn't care what I had to do, I was going to have that breakthrough!!

It was the hardest yet most rewarding thing I have ever done. I actually want to experience that again. It was very healing!

[lastyearisblank]

Hard core... I have never heard of anyone sitting on the floor or bringing a cd player to therapy. Did you just do it or did you have to ask first?

[Suratji]

Actually, next session I'm bringing a CD player. My T is so awesome - she has agreed to all of my requests (not that I've made many). If your T isn't comfortable with such accommodations, it probably wouldn't work.

[Suratji]

Originally Posted by lastyearisblank

Hard core... I have never heard of anyone sitting on the floor or bringing a cd player to therapy. Did you just do it or did you have to ask first?

I asked my T if she had ever sat on floor with client and she said that she had not. I asked her if she'd be willing to try and she agreed. I asked if we could try it then to see if it felt o.k. And she agreed again. I really think that she liked it.

[Suratji]

Originally Posted by inbloom

You guys, am I just really weird?? I have been with my T off and on for 16 years and it has NEVER crossed my mind to sit on the floor?? I would be really uncomfortable asking, too, and I can't imagine my T ever doing it. It makes me wonder, though, if other patients of his have done this in his office???

Suratji, I think that it's so great that you found this comforting space in your T's office. That is just what you needed so that you could move forward on your journey! Yay, you!!

My T had never done it before.

Originally Posted by lastyearisblank

Hard core... I have never heard of anyone sitting on the floor or bringing a cd player to therapy. Did you just do it or did you have to ask first?

I had been in therapy for about 9 months and we were getting to a standstill. I was not able to get anywhere with my emotions and really being able to open up. I asked her to "Push my buttons" so to speak and make me go there.

Her response was that she could not do that. She could not take my power away. I was the one who had to take control. I had to be the one to make that move. She said that I was going to have to do things differently in order to help me feel more comfortable.

This is when I asked her about bringing music to the sessions. I was part of the Praise and Worship Team at my church, so music was just a part of me. It helps me to open up my inner soul, mind, and spirit. She understood and said that was fine with her.

As for sitting in the floor, I explained to her that the way we were positioned with me on the couch and her in her chair, She was sitting higher than me. I felt like I was 'looking up' at her when we talked, and she was 'looking down' at me. This made me uncomfortable.

I asked if we could sit in the floor so that we would both be at eye level. I felt more comfortable sharing with her when I was not intimidated by what I perceived as an 'authority' figure.

I brought the blanket and pillow just to have something to snuggle up with. It made me feel less 'exposed'.

She did say that I am the only one who has ever done this, but it is okay! She said that it probably would benefit some of her other clients, but they more than likely have never through about it.