[sadeyes9519]

Hello!
I saw my former therapist for 3 years. At her suggestion I ended up in an in-paitent mental hospital for 25 days. I went there with the belief that I would be evaluated and given cost medication. She closed her practice a week later and moved 2 1/2 hours away to another state. Prior to me going to the hospital we had agreed on continuing our sessions via skype/telephone and me driving to her office monthly. 2 weeks before I went into the hospital she told me she would need to take 3 or 4 months off to set up her new practice but that she would call to check in during that time. she never did. she came to the hospital with me and when I got angry at being told I was going to be locked up I said I was "done" with her. I was extremely angry @ the time, I had not been on meds for almost a year and in a MAJOR episode. I contacted her 3 months later and she claimed that she sent me a letter via snail mail where I was suppose to sign and return a portion if I wanted further contact. I never received the letter. So here I sit still all these months later heart broken, angry and upset that I allowed yet another person into life who betrayed me. I feel like my last "safe" place has been taken from me. This situation consumes me.

[Gently1]

((((sadeyes9519)))

Sorry that you were betrayed.

Gently1

[PTSDlovemycats]

Did you tell her that you never received the letter?

[sadeyes9519]

Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats

Did you tell her that you never received the letter?

Yes, I did tell her. Personally I thought it was strange that she would send such an important correspondence via regular snail mail without any way to track it. For her own piece of mind wouldn't she want to know I had received the letter?

Wow! That was one huge betrayal and I don't blame you at all for feeling like you do. There's lots of support here. I hope you continue to reach out.

[sadeyes9519]

Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats

Did you tell her that you never received the letter?

Yes, I did. When I finally talked with her. I was surprised she used regular snail mail with no tracking ability and never sent a follow up text, email or voice mail to verify I received the letter.

[nannypat]

This sounds like it is a lot more about her than it is about you. Are you sure she is still practicing? This sounds very unethical to me.You deserve some termination time with her after three years whether she wants to or not. Something smells fishy here.

I am sorry for the pain you are going through. I had my pdoc suddenly lose his license after being with him for 20+ years.He was also my T. I am still trying to work through this and it hurts and I feel abandoned. I imagine you do too. I hope you find someone who can help you work through this with you. It took me a while but I finally had to and I have found someone who is helping me. I wish that for you too.

[sadeyes9519]

Originally Posted by nannypat

This sounds like it is a lot more about her than it is about you. Are you sure she is still practicing? This sounds very unethical to me.You deserve some termination time with her after three years whether she wants to or not. Something smells fishy here.

I am sorry for the pain you are going through. I had my pdoc suddenly lose his license after being with him for 20+ years.He was also my T. I am still trying to work through this and it hurts and I feel abandoned. I imagine you do too. I hope you find someone who can help you work through this with you. It took me a while but I finally had to and I have found someone who is helping me. I wish that for you too.

To add salt to the wound....months after this happen I discovered through a social network site (she posted her profile) that she didn't have a license and I was one of her first clients she took on. She was a recent recipient of a Master's Degree. So in addition to not having much time in the field, she didn't have much time on earth either...both of which were not disclosed to be prior to me starting treatment. I went back to the highly respected licensed professional who referred her to me and asked why he would refer me to an unlicensed person with no experience. He told me he made a judgement call. He felt she was such an exceptional therapist and any blind spots she may had he would mentor her on. Well his "mentoring" only took place for the 1st year...then she deceided to practice on her own out of her home. So the last two years she practiced under the title of "life Coach" telling me it was because she wasn't working within a non-profit...and I bought the story she was selling. I have come to learn Life Coaches are not regulated in the state I live in. I believe in my heart that is the reason she changed her designation from counselor to Life Coach to Holistic Pyschotherapist where she is now. I have filed a formal complaint against her and the person who referred her to me who does have a license.

Yes, I am certain she has re-invented herself. I've seen her new website she's up and ready for new clients.

thanks for listening :-)

[Liam Grey]

Originally Posted by sadeyes9519

I have filed a formal complaint against her and the person who referred her to me who does have a license.

Well done.

I hope you'll find someone qualified, who can take care of your therapeutic needs!

[sadeyes9519]

Thanks! I have a new therapist who also does a different type of therapy better suited for trauma. I just wish I could get rid of these angry, all consuming thoughts. I wish I could just say ok...you've learned some lessons now move on. Instead I stay stuck in the mud drinking the poison while she's off living a great new life.