my youngest son (21) is struggling and so i suggested that he come to t with me, after a bit of coaxing, he finally agreed. Then later t calls and he had an opening and did i want to go, i said sure, can i bring my son?? he says yes. T knows he is having issues, i have been sharing these with t, and so we go!

now, i am glad i was able to take my son and he did feel like it really helped and for that i am extra happy...

but on the other hand, i was there and t barely spoke to me. so a BIG part of me feels neglected and ignored. i am glad that he was able to help my son, glad my son feels helped and it was totally my idea...

but again i feel so totally neglected by t..... i dont get this... it was my idea!!!!

ps still very sensitive so if commenting please be gentle...
thanx!

[*doodles*]

I'm sorry! I think that is a very normal reaction, though. I would feel the same way. As much as you love your son and glad he got some help, that is YOUR T, your special T, and you want his attention. I don't think there is anything wrong with that!
Anyway that you can set up your son with his own T, or even your T, but his own sessions? That way you can both benefit and you don't have to give up any of your time.

[Hope4joy]

I agree with doodle. It's very normal to feel that way. You are in a tough bind because you love your son and yet, you value the special relationship with your T. Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the fact that by helping your son in that session, your T was helping you most. What a selfless and loving mom you are. He's still your T :-)

It is important that your son have his own sessions and you have your own. If your t wants you in on your son's sessions, then that should take place during your son's session time.

[nannypat]

You are such a loving mom. You would give your last morsel of food to your son and go without if he were hungry because you love him, but that would not stop your hunger. So to with your T. Maybe T has an extra time open this week that you could have if you ask. If not, try to do good things for yourself this week. Treat yourself to something a little extra because you are everything anyone could ever want in a mother.Happy Mother's Day!

Nannypat, thank you and you are so right... it is just who we are and what we do, without question......

i will do good things for me this week, love that idea

sending safe hugs

Chris, thanks, and you are 100% right...

Doodle, you are right, i so wanted his attention.
but i did do the right thing, son is feeling a bit better and so i think it was worth it....

sending safe hugs

Hope, you are right, t was helping me while helping my son, because all he would have heard from me "was" about my son, this way t "hears" from my son so maybe understands me a bit more???

sending safe hugs