T e-mailed

hi you don't know me but i have always read your posts, both before and after my recent joining psychcentral. i, however, never respond because i don't anything insightful to say. please keep your posts coming as i do benefit from reading them.

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No, I'm not taking a break. I have had breaks between therapists, but none of the therapists or therapies were meaningful like the one I'm in now. So, while I have quit therapy and have had breaks, it wasn't at all the same as what you are doing now - taking a break from a great T and a great therapy! I can't imagine what it is like to take a break and still know that T is there and I can/will go back.

I wondered about this too, actually. We didn't talk at all about contact during the break, and at first I assumed there wouldn't be any, and then I had this "maybe I'll e-mail once a week" idea, which I think I may have discarded.

It FEELS pretty cold turkey, because I really am used to a LOT of contact with T...twice a week sessions, plus leaving a voice message or sending an e-mail a few times a week.

When it got scary, I realized I could just call T and talk to him about whether I should come back, and I guess that's when I found out he's still there

Anyhow, I guess I'm finding out that it's not as black and white as I thought it would be. It doesn't have to be "no contact" or "once a week contact"...I think it can just flow however it needs to. I wonder how many times I will have to learn the "it's not black and white" lesson? Apparently a lot