[Protoform]

I think I'm not making a lot of sense right now but just because you fall in love with someone it doesn't mean that your love must be returned - so just like T's are so cold and detached when it comes to those things, why should we be any different? Maybe we are immature for thinking that love and affection felt toward any person in particular matter?

[dizgirl2011]

Originally Posted by Protoform

I think I'm not making a lot of sense right now but just because you fall in love with someone it doesn't mean that your love must be returned - so just like T's are so cold and detached when it comes to those things, why should we be any different? Maybe we are immature for thinking that love and affection felt toward any person in particular matter?

Well sometimes people don't receiprocate the love someone else feels for them and there's nothing anyone can do about that because we can't force someone to love us if they don't share the same feelings. It's not that the feelings don't matter, the person may think your very nice, may even care for you but not in the same way.
The relationship with a Therapist, although it may not seem like it when your sitting pouring out your thoughts and feelings, is a professional one, it's not the same as a relationship that isn't. T's shouldn't be cold and detached when talking about those feelings but just because they don't respond the way we may want doesn't make them cold and detached.
To Fall in love you really need to know someone, their good and bad points etc No matter how much you think you knew or did know about your T there was a lot more you didn't know and really what you were feeling was more like a crush,obsession or fantasy. That does not minimise how you have felt knowing these things you want won't come true but it very likely wasn't real love...even if it feels like it was.