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My T is not an authority figure. I consider him my advisor, who I pay to give me educated and well-researched advice. I also consider him as an equal walking the path with me to healing.
That said, one of my issues is a real problem with authority figures. LOL.
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I feel the exact same way!
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I do not see my T as an authority figure. Seeing him as an authority figure presupposes my filling a subjugated role in the process. Having my own issues with control and compulsive self-reliance, it's impossible to accept anything less than a therapeutic relationship based on equality. He and I have discussed this topic since he made the statement that I am attracted to power. This conversation occured after my disclosure of erotic feelings for him. He mentioned how he fills a power position in the therapeutic context. This is symbolically true, but I told him that I retained control by having the option to choose what I disclose or terminate at any time. He also stated that becauswe he knows much about me and I know nothing about him, that creates a power differential. I conceded to this, but told him that most people manipulate others opinion of them by presenting their more positive attributes which facilitates some level of idealization. He inquired whether I idealize him or not. I replied that on some level I do, that most people idealize others to a degree when they are not privy to the other's more distasteful traits. How, although I have no knowledge of these traits, that doesn't negate the fact that they exist. Obviously, he and I both have our own unhealthy narcissistic issues which has created a bit of a power struggle between us (don't think I'm projecting that).
I think that it would facillitate my personal growth (not to mention transference) if I could view him as an authority figure. Maybe those feelings will change over time, who knows?
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I wanted to say thanks to everyone who said these questions were interesting (so I feel less strange for asking)
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![]() I guess to me that as an adult letting myself feel like a child, or being very vulnerable, sort of feels like something you're not supposed to do. Sometimes doing it anyway feels good, and sometimes not. I agree, "authority figure" sounds like something more negative than I probably meant. |
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I do not see my therapist as an authority figure, but I do see him as someone who knows more than me. I respect the fact that he has walked the road I am on before. I offer his counsel every consideration.
We are of very very similar educational backgrounds and stations in life, although he is some 20 years my senior. He is a human being.
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