[Indie'sOK]

I want to Google my Ex-T and Current-T sooo badly...the temptation is overwhelming. Believe it or not, I've never done this. I feel like it'd be an invasion of their privacy, even if they aren't aware I'm doing it. Obviously therapists have to know that their clients search for information on them on the internet. Still...why do I feel so guilty? Has anyone done this and come up with stuff they'd rather have not known?

I have a feeling this topic has been discussed many times over, butttt...
After Ex-T dropped me and quit her job, I think I have a right to Google her name. So there, dumb Ex-T.

EDIT: I shouldn't have done that, because now I miss Old T again and it's starting to get to me. Shoot.
When in doubt, there's always my New T and those warm fuzzy feelings

[Indie'sOK]

I was going to write about how Old T posted on her (publicly accessible) Facebook account that she likes to go barhopping, but then I remembered how she gave me a hug the last time I saw her and gave me a referral to the sweetest T in the freaking world, and it makes me miss her like crazy and want to hug New T as well, whom I would not have even known had I not met Old T. I hate feeling this way because I miss her still so much at times, other times not. And I know New T is getting sick of hearing about it.

Originally Posted by Indie'sOK

And I know New T is getting sick of hearing about it.

I so know this fear...that T is inwardly rolling his eyes and sighing when I bring up the same thing yet again But I know that T is there for me to talk about whatever I need to talk about, as many times as I need to, from every angle, until I can come to a point of acceptance, or understanding, or whatever it is that I need.

It helps me to talk to T about it when I am having that fear....have you asked new T if she's sick of it? I know that *I* am sick of my feelings sometimes, but T really isn't. Maybe T could reassure you. You need what you need to heal.

As for googling...I have googled my T, and there's not much out there...but at one point, I discovered his wife's fb page was wide open and I looked at it and felt SO icky. It did feel like an invasion of his privacy. I ended up telling him about it, and he was so understanding, and his wife fixed her page and it's all in the past and okay. I think that it's such a normal thing to do...and I also think that whatever feelings come up will pass. For me, it was a good learning experience about how much I *really* want to know about T.
to you

[maggyjo]

I'll admit I have done it.

My old T is really smart and there wasn't much except a few speeding tickets.

Current T has a pic of her and Pdoc out for a drink, even though her FB page is private FB has privacy leaks.

(where is the embarrassed red face icon??)

Maggy Jo

[Indie'sOK]

Originally Posted by treehouse

I so know this fear...that T is inwardly rolling his eyes and sighing when I bring up the same thing yet again

Exactly how I feel, even if I know that it isn't true. It takes a few times telling me something for it to make an impact.

Originally Posted by treehouse

You need what you need to heal.

I like this, and it's probably one of the biggest truths of therapy.

Originally Posted by treehouse

As for googling...I have googled my T, and there's not much out there

There really isn't. I think Facebook holds the most information and can actually give us insight into how privately our T's want to present themselves. I mean, when I went into Old T's page, she had all her interests, like bands, books, etc. visible for anyone to see. She has to know that clients will search for her, and Facebook is the first place they'll do it. New T, on the other hand, had nothing visible when I went to her page. (Facebook is a great creeper tool! ) The only personal thing she had was her profile picture of her and what I imagine to be a colleague, probably at a convention or something. And very basic information like gender, relationship interest, little stuff like that. She's obviously a more private person than Old T...I guess the interest OT put about "barhopping with so and so" did it for me. And that's fine. She's young and single, she has a right to a social life. But when you're a therapist and you know clients and potential clients might search you, keep it private, for gosh sakes!

[Indie'sOK]

Wow...after reading over this thread, I can't believe what a little brat I sound like

Thanks for being the voice of reason, Tree. Your post helped a lot with this. I guess I was triggered last night and that's why I sounded so immature.