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Hey guys,
I came across this article online and found it really helpful. It is nice to hear from a reputable source the thing that all of us who struggle with attachment in T know -- dependency is painful and it is a situation where the T's ability to balance the need for dependency and the need for growth is paramount. http://www.trauma-pages.com/a/steele-2001.php The whole article is awesome and I'd recommend it to everyone, but the quote below seems really relevant to several of us here on the boards. This article should be required reading for psychology students! Quote:
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Jexa I found that article very helpful too. I first read it about 5 or 6 years ago when I had no idea how much dependency was too much or too little, and it really helped me see that my T's approach was very balanced and therapeutic. My T and I frequently talk about predictability and consistency because intermittent reinforcement is very powerful, so T's really need to be aware of that or else they can inadvertently create more problems by being inconsistent.
Excellent article in my opinion.
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Conversation with my therapist: Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here." Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here." (Pause) Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?" Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall." It's official. I can even make therapists crazy. |
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I wonder if my T has read this. I wonder how she would react if I pointed her in its direction. Maybe I can anonymously slip it under her door, lol.
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Thank you, jexa. That article was very interesting!
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This is great stuff, really gets to the heart of the matter for me. Navigating between total independence and over-dependence. Consistent vs inconsistent reactions from the adult. My older brother died about 2 yr before I was born. Really affects the attachment patterns
![]() My first therapist was inconsistent in his reactions, sometimes tender, other time detached. Confusing! Current therapist does a great job with it though, consistently warm and caring. It's nice! ![]() |
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