Just curious...........do they see this as good or bad?

[PreacherHeckler]

He thinks it has the potential to be both good and bad. He thinks it's good for offering and receiving support and to feel less alone with some of the issues I struggle with, but he also sees the potential for posting threads that don't necessarily reflect the reality of certain situations, because even if we think we're being objective about our relationship with our T's, we can still only present our own version of events because our T's don't have the opportunity to agree or disagree with our interpretation. And I don't know about anyone else here but when my emotions are running high I'm not the best judge of reality, so that's why you'll rarely see me posting anything when my T and I aren't exactly on the same page. I used to post about those issues several years ago at another site before I found this one, but I eventually learned to deal directly with my T and work it out with him when we had a rupture because I realized when I went back and read those old posts weeks or months later, my perception of events had been clouded by my past and I was surprised by my ability to distort things when I thought I had been presenting them accurately at the time.

[slbest]

Mine doesn't know I post here. I have never told her. But I'd think she would think it is fine.

[rainbow8]

I'm not sure what my current T thinks about it. In general, though, she thinks I spend too much time on the internet, and she's right. My former T thought it was helpful when I posted on a BPD board but later she had concerns. Mainly, she said that I get confused when I get responses that I disagree with, and it makes me spin my wheels more than I do already. So she wondered if it was helping me or not.

She was right to the extent that I am probably too much affected by responses I don't want to hear. I think everyone else is an expert rather than making my own decisions. Still, I'd never give up posting on this forum!

[SoupDragon]

My T wasn't happy when I shared that I use an on-line site - we haven't discussed it since. I can understand the arguement about saving things to share in therapy instead - but as I only go once a week and life goes on beyond that 60 minutes and I don't / can't access other support, this is a useful thing for me to be in touch with.

Originally Posted by PreacherHeckler

He thinks it has the potential to be both good and bad. He thinks it's good for offering and receiving support and to feel less alone with some of the issues I struggle with, but he also sees the potential for posting threads that don't necessarily reflect the reality of certain situations, because even if we think we're being objective about our relationship with our T's, we can still only present our own version of events because our T's don't have the opportunity to agree or disagree with our interpretation. This is exactly what my therapist tells me. I think that sometimes we get in here say things about our therapists, then everyone has that "OMG! I can't believe he/she did or said that!"

And I don't know about anyone else here but when my emotions are running high I'm not the best judge of reality, so that's why you'll rarely see me posting anything when my T and I aren't exactly on the same page. I think that this is probably true about many of us. I find that I post and delete quite often! I am getting better about writing things out and then not submitting them. Just getting my frustration out and not putting it on anyone else in here.

I used to post about those issues several years ago at another site before I found this one, but I eventually learned to deal directly with my T and work it out with him when we had a rupture because I realized when I went back and read those old posts weeks or months later, my perception of events had been clouded by my past and I was surprised by my ability to distort things when I thought I had been presenting them accurately at the time.

I don't think that any of us intentionally distort things, but we often times do. When I had my recent rupture and went 'mute' for awhile, my perception of that whole incident was totally different from hers. Once things settled down, we talked about what happened. Her view of the events were totally different than mine.

During that time she did apologize for her part in causing me to be upset. I am not sure at the time that she even knew what I was upset with her about, but she apologized anyway. Had she not done that, who knows how long the rupture would have gone on!

As for how she feels about me going to this forum, she kinda views this like group therapy. She says that it appears to be helping me. We discuss a lot of things in my sessions that I see on PC. She does give me her honest opinion about everything and it gives us some good topics to discuss in my session.

She has cautioned me to be careful about what I disclose on the internet. You never know how that might come back and bit you in the hiney one day!

[PTSDlovemycats]

Mine doesn't know that I post here and I have no intentions on telling her either.

[lastyearisblank]

It will be a secret forever. I'm really private.

[lonely and scared]

Mine doesn't know but I do want to bring it up with him I'm just not sure how to.

[Mediator]

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

My T wasn't happy when I shared that I use an on-line site - we haven't discussed it since. I can understand the arguement about saving things to share in therapy instead - but as I only go once a week and life goes on beyond that 60 minutes and I don't / can't access other support, this is a useful thing for me to be in touch with.

It is an interesting opinion of therapist, I do not understand. I understand that therapists should warn you that you should not believe all things here and to be aware of real contact with people who you met at internet. But to be open is first stage to possibility to be healthy, to have good relantionship with ourself and others.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Squiggle328

Just curious...........do they see this as good or bad?

considering it was my therapist that lead me to this place by giving me the web address I can make an educated guess she loves this place and doesnt mind I post here.

[SoupDragon]

Originally Posted by Mediator

It is an interesting opinion of therapist, I do not understand. I understand that therapists should warn you that you should not believe all things here and to be aware of real contact with people who you met at internet. But to be open is first stage to possibility to be healthy, to have good relantionship with ourself and others.

I agree - I have kept secrets all my life and I want to be as open as I can be and for me that starts with my T - so I was a little disappointed in my T's reaction - however I guess that is also reflecting real life - there may be people in the future who I want to share something personal with and learning how to cope with disapproval is a positive thing.

[skysblue]

My T didn't express approval or disapproval when I told her. I guess it's like anything else in life - if it ends up causing problems, I'll bring it up in session and THEN we'll discuss it.

[Flooded]

My pdoc wasn't impressed but I haven't got around to asking why yet.

[zooropa]

my T doesn't know about PC, or at least I have never (would never) told her the name of the site, but she does know I have a lot of online friends and she knows that one of those groups of friends is loosely formed around the fact that we are all in therapy. She hasn't said too much about it but she has said in the past that she's glad I have people to process this stuff with.

[with or without you]

I told her I read a psychotherapy forum but I didn't go into anymore detail, she didn't seem to care one way or the other. I think she has a lot better things to do with her time than figuring out which site it is, LOL.

[PTSDlovemycats]

I agree, I think our T's are do busy to go hunting us down on here. For the most part anyway..,

[Elli-Beth]

Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats

Mine doesn't know that I post here and I have no intentions on telling her either.

Ditto. I wondered at one point if he'd seen this (several conversational coincidences) but now I really don't worry about it.

[ECHOES]

Neither. I've mentioned it and she is only curious about what it means to me.
I talked about some posts early in my therapy, when I was trying to make my therapy match other's/make my therapist be someone other that she is. Luckily I got past that!

[cmac13]

Mine is not impressed with internet forums or internet "friends". She feels the best relationships are with real people...face to face. I would have to agree with her. I do not get validation for my feelings from this website or any other internet psych forum. I gather info and read opinions but I do not depend on some PC "hugs", "pocketriders" and or support to get me through rough times. I look to my husband, therapist and friends for that. This forum at times gets to be a bit more dramatic than I can understand or believe. Anytime a person can post anonomously you have to wonder what is real and what is not...just my opinion.

[WePow]

My T says that this is a form of group therapy. He wants me to also move into person-to-person groups, but he knows THAT AINT HAPPENIN! Too much social anxiety issues still for any of that. So this counts for therapy group hours he said.
((But he does have his own support group on-line in a different forum)).

[laceylu]

I told my T and my psychiatrist. I was asking first if it was ok. T said please make sure that if something confuses me to ask questions. The doc was not very supportive. Take the information with a grain of salt she said. I think that they should know the resources available. Maybe they should investigate and see what we are saying to make improvements. My current problems started with some deceptions and I want to be as honest as I can with everyone now, so i shared it with them. In fact I printed an article and I am going to share it with T this Thursday. I want to know facts and information so I can get healthy.