[granite1]

i have read a bunch of threads about crying. i am one of these people who has never cried with this T.in the past when i was in the treatment home i was so out of control it was more like face held to the ground as i screamed ,cried, and threatened.but never just sat in T and cried.i don't think i ever could just cry or ever even slightly be overly emotional.i would be totally terrified.i am never sad about my past i am angry as he!!.always have been .i wonder if i never cry about things would my T think that i am not genuine in how i feel??i just doesn't make me sad.just really really angry.i wonder if things really weren't all that bad after all.

[laceylu]

I have researched crying since I have stopped. Apparently people cry a lot more that I ever have. I think my tears are there, but unable to be released for some reason. I would need to understand crying better for me to make a comment Granite about your situation with crying. To assume your situation was not bad because you are angry and do not cry does not make sense to me. Maybe you could explore this topic with your t to make sure you are ok?

Granite, I don't generally cry because I'm sad. I cry because I'm angry. There's more than one emotion that can be tied to crying.

But don't tie the crying to the importance or severity of what you have been through. One has nothing to do with the other.

[WikidPissah]

I am usually a master at fighting off tears. I have been caught off guard a few times in the past few mos and cried, once in front of T...once in front of pdoc. It was scary and humiliating at the same time. I have told really bad parts of my story and not blinked an eye as well. So I guess it's where your at, and nothing to do with how bad/well you are doing.

[Perna]

I like what farmergirl said about more than one emotion can go with crying and also would add that often anger is a secondary emotion linked to sadness and loss. If someone takes something from you, you get angry but there's also the aspect of losing something important to you (or you wouldn't get angry in the first place, you wouldn't "care"). Loss is sad. Often I get angry when I'm feeling helpless (as in "lost it all") and use the anger as an energizer to help me get out of that pit of helplessness. If you're stopped/stuck, it's a handy emotion to get you going again as anger is to help you "do" something constructive about what is making you angry.

[granite1]

i can be so numb and detached from everything that i have survived as a kid it is ridiculous.when i am made to think about it i have this huge rage that i don't think my T could handle.i know she is trained and all but if she even messed up a bit i think i would spin so out of control.but crying about it i could never do

Originally Posted by granite1

i can be so numb and detached from everything that i have survived as a kid it is ridiculous.when i am made to think about it i have this huge rage that i don't think my T could handle.i know she is trained and all but if she even messed up a bit i think i would spin so out of control.but crying about it i could never do

Granite...I too was angry about CA...and once I let out the anger...the sadness was exposed....but I can cry alone but not with T. I hope you find a way to let out the anger....

i don't understand the crying thing either. i have been seeing the same t almost forever and only cried once, t said i was feeling "terrified" so like Farmergirl said, anger is one emotion from crying, but for me i think it was being scared.

t didn't do anything while i cried, sat silently, which for me, was good. i am not sure what i expected him to do. he didn't make a big deal out of it named the emotion, and that was about it.

sending safe hugs

[SoupDragon]

Originally Posted by granite1

i can be so numb and detached from everything that i have survived as a kid it is ridiculous.when i am made to think about it i have this huge rage that i don't think my T could handle.i know she is trained and all but if she even messed up a bit i think i would spin so out of control.but crying about it i could never do

I am a "non-crier" in T and wish I could.

However what struck me about your post is that you say you don't think your T could handle your rage and that is she even messed up a bit you would spin out of control. I was just wondering whether this in anyway may relate to you not crying - what if T couldn't handle it and you span out of control? I think for me in my sessions, the fear of losing control bit is significant - I even said in the last session that it is not so much that I am fearful of T's reaction, but scared of my own. SD

[Sannah]

Yes, anger is a secondary emotion like Perna explained. Your tears and sadness are probably underneath your anger. Once you deal with your anger you will have access to the rest of your emotions.

Can you tell your T about this anger and your fear of losing control?