[Sillystring1]

Hi everyone.
I'm really starting to panic now. It looks as if i wil have to end my therapy in a few months time and i'm experiencing feelings of panic and anxiety. I'm fleeting between those and total anger at the fact that i'm going to have to leave. How have others coped with previous endings?

[SoupDragon]

I haven't had a previous ending myself, but the thought of it would be really scarey for me. Is this something you have a choice in?

[nicoleb2]

I have not had to go through that myself, but when I think of it happening, it scares the hell out of me. I hope you can find a way to cope with this huge change in your life.

[Sillystring1]

its a difficult choice to make... i have to choose to stay in this therapy or enter another process, which i know will also be helpful but its a feeling of having to start all over again with trust and safety. Just when i thought i was beginning to engage in my feelings that safety zone in which to do this is probably going to have to close and the process of trusting has to start again with another group of people. I HATE having to make this choice

[elliemay]

Originally Posted by Sillystring1

its a difficult choice to make... i have to choose to stay in this therapy or enter another process, which i know will also be helpful but its a feeling of having to start all over again with trust and safety. Just when i thought i was beginning to engage in my feelings that safety zone in which to do this is probably going to have to close and the process of trusting has to start again with another group of people. I HATE having to make this choice

But you do have a choice. What is the time frame for notification here? Is there a common ground between the two or is it really all one or the other.

I would talk to your current therapist and seek as much advice as possible.

Listen to your wise mind and not the anxiety.

You will make the right choice.

[SallyBrown]

When I went to college, I saw a therapist that worked at the campus medical center, and did not have a private practice. I grew to really like him, and at the end I thought things would be ok -- I was bummed, but since it came around graduation it didn't feel quite so bad.

I did not make plans to see anyone after I had to terminate with him and this was a HORRIBLE MISTAKE. Two months after my last appointment with him and with no therapy at all in that time, I was so unhappy I made my first suicide attempt.

Yes, it was very hard to start over with someone new (and I actually had to do this a few times), but far and away better than doing it alone. In my experience, as long as I'm not talking to someone abusive, it turns out that depression cares a lot less about who I'm talking to than whether I'm talking at all.

I can't necessarily tell you how to handle the anxiety of losing your current T (and I am sorry you have to deal with this ), but I can strongly recommend that you line up a transition to someone new.