[BlessedRhiannon]

I've been having a rough time lately. I had a session with my T today, and talked to her about it a bit. She has asked me to contact her daily for the next week, just to let her know how I'm doing. My T said that she's not asking because she feels I'm at risk, but because she thinks that it will help me stay connected both with her and with just life in general. She said an email is fine, unless I need to call her.

Anyway, I told her I would drop her a short email each day, but I just feel strange about it. I feel like I'm imposing on her time, even though she specifically requested this. I'm not used to someone asking me to contact them because it will help ME. I'm not used to someone caring enough about ME specifically to ask me to stay in touch every day, and that someone not expecting anything else (like detailed conversations, or something...my T only wants what I can give).

I know I should talk to my T about how I feel strange about emailing her daily. I'll mention it in the email I send tomorrow.

I do appreciate that my T has asked this, and I'm grateful to her. I just feel so weird about it!

[wheeler]

I do that with my T sometimes, especially when I'm feeling really low. We do it mostly by text, cause that's what I'm comfortable with. It dows help

good luck

[geez]

Sounds like you have an amazing T! I can understand how you might feel uncomfortable however I think it's great that T is giving you the reasurance that he/she is there to help you.

[lunarpariah]

I think that's awesome. My T said it's fine if I email her sometimes. It kinda makes me feel a little ackward too so I don't do it a lot but it's comforting to know that I can if I need to

Daily check ins are typical in some models of therapy (like DBT phone coaching sessions). You aren't disrupting anything if she asked you to call/email her daily. Trust that she knows what she's requesting of you, and she wouldn't ask yo to do something that she couldn't handle.

I am glad that T is so supportive and shows you that people do care and want to know how you are. I'm sure that does feel 'weird', but kind of a good weird, I'm assume? This sounds like a really good thing, trust in your T and yourself. Give as much or as little information as you like to check in.

[BlessedRhiannon]

Originally Posted by stormyangels

Daily check ins are typical in some models of therapy (like DBT phone coaching sessions). You aren't disrupting anything if she asked you to call/email her daily. Trust that she knows what she's requesting of you, and she wouldn't ask yo to do something that she couldn't handle.

I am glad that T is so supportive and shows you that people do care and want to know how you are. I'm sure that does feel 'weird', but kind of a good weird, I'm assume? This sounds like a really good thing, trust in your T and yourself. Give as much or as little information as you like to check in.

Thanks. I know my T uses DBT with some of her clients, but it's not the type of therapy we're doing. So, I know that if she suggested it, then it's not an imposition, and since I'm emailing her, she can check email at her leisure...still...can't help feeling I'm imposing. I just keep telling myself to trust my T.

Yes, good weird. Honestly, it makes me want to cry! I think it probably is a good thing, though. It did scare me when she first made the request...made me think 'oh gosh, I'm worse off than I thought I was', but she clarified and that made me feel a little better.

[BlessedRhiannon]

Originally Posted by geez

Sounds like you have an amazing T!

Yes, she really is awesome. Wish I'd found her YEARS ago!!! But, maybe I wasn't ready for this kind of work years ago. Maybe I found her right when I needed to.

I would feel the same way you do, if my T did this. But then that's part of my problem, of not feeling deserving. Your T requested this - not you, and it shows that she cares about you. It only takes a minute or two to read an email, and it's only for a week! Enjoy the daily contact if you can - I would LOVE to have contact with my T every day!!

I understand it feeling like an imposition even if she did explicitly say it's okay to contact her every day. My T just recently told me that I can email him whenever I feel I need to, to go into as much detail as I want and not worry about the length of the emails and I'm really happy to have the connection between sessions, but I know I will still struggle with actually emailing him. I also feel like it's a strange thing to have someone really want to hear from me, and won't find it an annoying bother.

I think Ts reaching out and letting us know it's okay to have contact and to be cared for will be a very healing part of the process. It sounds like your therapist is very caring.

I just went through a two week period where I either had a session or a phone conversation with my T just about every day. That's really standard for him when I'm not doing well. I gratefully accept his support during those times. It isn't like it is always that way. This happens maybe once a year I guess.

we have daily contact/see our counselor everyday except for sunday,its something we are grateful for,glad yours is so supportive

[Butterflies Are Free]

I think it's great that your T wants to do this with you and stay connected to you!

I hope you'll do what she asks. If she felt like it would be a bother or something, she wouldn't have told you to contact her. She obviously cares about you! So just enjoy it

My T and I text almost daily. I don't think its unusual for a T who cares to want to know how you are doing.

[Wren_]

that's wonderful she is encouraging you to do this ... I understand it is difficult but hope you can overcome that and make use of this gift she is offering and that it helps you to stay connected and supported

[vaffla]

Your T sounds awesome!

[FourRedheads]

I also hope you will do this--I wish my T would do that.

Originally Posted by BlessedRhiannon

Yes, good weird. Honestly, it makes me want to cry!

When T told me once that he loved me not because of what I *do* but because of who I *am* it made me cry. I think when we're not used to caring, concern, etc. it can just feel kind of overwhelming. GOOD overwhelming, but overwhelming none the less.

I've been in a daily contact thing with T for a little while. Either an e-mail or a phone message. I have learned over the years to trust that T will only give me what he CAN. I believe that he's careful about not getting burnt out, and when he does, he's very good about stepping back and doing self care. I bet the same is true for your T.

I'm glad you're getting the extra support right now and that you have such a caring and available T

[laceylu]

That would make me feel weird also, but kind of nice since I would think she cared about me.

[dizgirl2011]

**huge hugs** I hope you start to feel better soon BlessedRhiannon. It's great that your therapist has asked you to do this and as other people have said, she would't have suggested it if she couldn't handle it.
It can be hard to really absorb the fact someone cares for us but in this case it is very true!!
My therapist would never, ever do this unfortunately.

I am glad your T is so awesome!

[BlessedRhiannon]

Thank you all for the feedback! I do really appreciate my T asking me to contact her daily, but I also still feel weird about it.

I will definitely drop her at least an email each day...she asked, I agreed to do so.

I'm hoping this will help somehow....