[phoenix7]

i had a T - he saved my life - he retired cos he had cancer - i went online to find his tel no - and found his obituary.........

how do you get past this ......

I havnt found a T since..I cant afford one

he used to send me stuff to read

he rang even after he retired........

how do you get past this....

he was the rope i was holding onto

and now he's gone.....

wrong place? then move me ..cos i dont think i care anymore anyway....

[nannypat]

I am sooooo sorry for your loss. It must feel devastating and to find out the way you did. I have no wise words. Just know I feel for you. Sending you safe hugs.

[googley]

((((((((((((((P7))))))))))))))

I am so sorry this happened. That is such a huge loss. Can you focus on your positive memories of him. Maybe write them down and make a book out of it in remembrance of him?

[confuseduk]

So very sorry to hear about your loss, must have left a huge void. We'll all be here for you through this difficult time so please don't feel alone

[sittingatwatersedge]

Oh P7 I am so sorry.

there are Ts out there to help you, we talked about it once... let me know how I can help.

[noneedtoknow]

I'm sorry for your sadness..and loss....

[mgran]

Oh, I'm so sad to hear this, it must be an awful feeling. I pray that you'll find someone to help you hold on. Remember, your T obviously cared about you, he was still in touch after his retirement. That means he'd want you to hold on.

(((hug))) Please be kind to yourself.

[roadtrip]

wow I am sorry to hear that. That is so tragic. Not sure if it's something to get past but maybe the pain becomes something we learn to live with and feels lighter over time. You are in my thouhgts.

[geez]

It's funny (in an odd way) that you posted this. I am ending therapy and the thought has crossed my mind for when the day comes that I'll find my T in the obituary column (hopefully not for many, many, many years to come). How does one handle that?

[elliemay]

I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved therapist. I know that this must be incredibly painful.

But what a life he must have had! Look at the life he helped you live.

Your sadness now honors his life. It's okay. We're here and understand.

Seek out all the support you can.

[Butterflies Are Free]

I am so sorry for your loss - I can't imagine what it must be like for you right now.
A former T of mine died last spring and I was able to go to her viewing - this helped a little. Can you write down some of the memories you have of your T?

(((((((((P7)))))))))

Thank you for sharing with us so we can support you

[learning1]

[SilentLucidity]

Sorry to hear about your loss. He sounds like a pretty amazing T.

[crazycanbegood]

my heart breaks for you pheonix. all words of comfort seem inadequate but just know we know what it means to lose one of the most important people in your life

[WePow]

This is a big loss for you. As big (if not bigger) than the loss of a parent.
Allow yourself to feel that pain. Don't deny it.
And allow yourself to smile too - at remembering all your hours together.
Allow all of these things to be fully in you right now.
Don't run from them or try to cover them up.
They are very special feelings and they should be honored.
If you are ready, write him a letter. Pour your heart out in it about how all of this is making you feel. He would want to be here for you now to help you process all of this. So let him. Write it all out then put that letter in a special place to keep it safe.

BIG BIG hugs to you!

[Omers]

Oh, BIG hugs Phoenix. I can't imagine.
Here if you need us (more than a bit brain fried but my shoulders are still good for crying on).
More hugs.

I am so very, very sorry. I can imagine this must just be devastating.

[TayQuincy]

So sorry for your loss! I can imagine how sad you are. please take care and let yourself feel your feelings.

[vaffla]

That is so devastating . I'm so so sorry for your loss!

[FourRedheads]

I'm very sorry.

[Xeneon]

I'm so sorry for your loss!!! Try to remember all the good things about your t and try to live like your T. I'm sure he knows how much he mean't to you and know that can make helpful for person to let go because he knows he did all it could do. You T didn't die just like another person. He impacted lives!!!! Sending you tons of hugs!!!

[Yoda]

I am sorry

[laceylu]

so sorry for your loss...

[Wren_]

having a T died is ... a pain that is so hard for anyone else to understand and truly appreciate .... it can feel so intensely isolating and lonely and there is nothing easy or fast about "getting over it" ..... it's a take one moment at a time thing ... a .... try to be gentle with yourself thing .... and since you have somewhere you can share where people understand at least a little it's a post on PC and get support thing try to remember as well things that your T taught you and shared with you ..... remember his care for you as well and allow yourself to enjoy and appreciate that. My first T died a few years ago after several years together and nothing and nobody can replace that relationship we had; for me, it's only been the last few months I could start therapy again, I hope you can find someone sooner who can walk this part of the journey with you. Feel free to pm me if you ever need someone to just listen thinking of you