[Paraclete]

Five years ago my husband had an affair and walked out on me and our young children.

It's been five long years of recovery, but looking back, Im suddenly in a moment of complete enlightenment and tearful realisation aware of an amazing truth;

I lost my husband, but I regained myself.

To those who have been in a similar position, I hope these words can be for you what they are to me; The pick-stroke that breaks the wall between darkness and the bright light of freedom.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by Paraclete

I lost my husband, but I regained myself.

I feel the same. I think T helped me unearth myself during the whole marriage break-up. My self was still there, just buried after many years of marriage. At my session last week, during one of my spontaneous "it's so great not to be married anymore" outbursts (I still have them and it has been almost two years), I compared the feeling to how you feel after taking off your ski boots or roller skates after a day's activity. You feel so light when you walk around, like you could float or skip. T liked that--"kicking off your boots," he said. Yes.

Originally Posted by Paraclete

The pick-stroke that breaks the wall between darkness and the bright light of freedom.

This reminds me of something my T told me multiple times: when your heart breaks, it cracks open.

Congratulations on finding your self again, Paraclete, and your realization of your amazing truth.

[WePow]

That is an amazing isight. One that too many woman who are in those situations never get to see. But it is a powerful insight and has a world of truth. Good for you!

[lunarpariah]

I was in a five year relationship in which my partner and my identity became 'us', it did not feel like I had an identity of my my own. Like you I realized later on that it helped me pyschologically to know who 'I' was rather than who 'we' were.

I'm glad you found the silver lining.

[FourRedheads]

I just want to say thank you for posting this.

[Paraclete]

when your heart breaks, it cracks open.

I love this. I guess when our hearts crack OPEN, it allows us an opportunity to let things out, or invite new things in.
I really like that.