[Brightheart]

Haven't started a new thread for a long while...

I'm wondering can therapy actually change my pattern of attaching insecurely? I'm still having difficulty, the patterns are very clear, and I'm thinking of going back to work more on this.

Kind of queasy about starting over again with a new therapist...

[sittingatwatersedge]

brightheart - I know that my T would say, definitely yes. You are brave I hope it works out very well for you.

((((((((brightheart)))))))))

I do think so, for sure.

I think for me, learning to be in a secure, long-term relationship with T has carried over into other areas of my life. I feel much more comfortable and confident in my other relationships now...WAY different than how I felt before therapy.

I think it takes time...relationships and attachment are complex, and so tied to deep, core issues...but I think it's worth it.

Lots and lots of hugs to you...it's so good to see you here

[Dr.Muffin]

it sure can.

[gardenangel]

I know it's hard to start therapy, but it is a vey brave thing to do.
Best to you!

[rainbow8]

I think it will be productive for you to be in therapy again. You have a better understanding of your issues and of yourself. I hope you find a T you fit with and whom you like.

[BonnieJean]

Queasy you'll probably get over a few sessions in...the benefits of getting help for a behavior you're uncomfortable with will last a whole lot longer.

[delicatefade26]

I absolutely believe a relationship with a T can heal attachment wounds and help bring about new ways of interacting with people beyond the therapy room, and allow us to create secure attachments in our lives! it takes a lot of work and isn't always going to be easy-but worth it! I personally just began my journey towards healing my attachment issues and I know it's going to be a long road-but I'm in this fully-because I want this more than anything! I wish you all the best when you start your journey again-and keep us updated

[sunrise]

Yes, I think it can help. I think it is important to allow oneself to feel good about the attachment after having achieved it, so that it is positively reinforcing and makes you want to maintain the attachment and do the same thing with others in your life. If one leaves therapy too soon, one may not get sufficient positive reinforcement.

Good luck with this new beginning.

[PTSDlovemycats]

Yes it can definitely help!

[Brightheart]

Thanks for the support everyone. I just lost someone...kind of heartbroken at the moment...

I had a very healing relationship with my first therapist, but feel now that I left too soon. I will give this a go.

[geez]

Originally Posted by Brightheart

Thanks for the support everyone. I just lost someone...kind of heartbroken at the moment...

I had a very healing relationship with my first therapist, but feel now that I left too soon. I will give this a go.

Sorry for your loss (((Brightheart))). Please keep us posted.

[Butterflies Are Free]

Yes, I really think it can help and can change old patterns.

[granite1]

hi brightheart.i definately think it can.i hope you can find a new T that you will feel comfortable with and trust and i bet you could grow leaps and bounds with this

[laceylu]

I feel the same way about my first T. I think I left too soon due to money and no insurance. But what I did get was wonderful and has helped me with attachment to my husband. Now second T is really helping me with the body memories, she does sensorimotor therapy. And she is picking up where the first one stopped. The nausea should improve with time like new medicine.