[vanessaG]

Started seeing new therapist a couple wks ago...not sure how i feel about him though. We dance around subjects and have not gotten into anything too deep. Its weird Im just telling him what has happened without any feeling.
He told me that 'im tough to crack' and idk...its just idk if i should give it more time, or this is a sign hes not for me. I have only seen him 4 times.
I like his feedback, but he has a somewhat oh whatever attitude and he yawns! Ugh maybe im just boring?! lol
Last session we talked about my mom (Ive explained the issues-and its A LOT) so last session we talked about her (superficially) and at the end of the 40 minutes, he said ok! Mom figured out, next time ____ subject.
I was kinda baffeled because I feel like nothing got resolved, we didnt even get deep into it-AT ALL!
Is this typical? Should I look for a new one? I saw a new P-DOC yesterday and asked him if he knows about my therapist and all he told me was I would cxl your appt and bring me a list and I will refer u to one" and that i should wait to do talk therapy till my moods are more stable....
Idk, maybe that was his way of saying no, dont see him with out bad mouthig him? uggghhhh so frustrating!!

[SoupDragon]

Hi, it is hard after only 4 sessions to get to know a T - I have been seeing mine for 18 months and we are only just now starting to peek at things, so I guess we have been skirting around stuff all this time - but I think I would have been devastated to hear him say that I was tough to crack and to see him yawn would also have triggered my own self hatred stuff. So to me that doesn't sound very encouraging.

I wonder if you would be able to feed the things you have written back to T and see what response you get? - (although I am the biggest coward going and find to really hard to raise anything with me T and so know it may be hard.)

Let us know how you get on - Soup

[Astridetal]

Hmmm, him ywaning in session is not appropriate and him saying you're hard to crack is rather weird, since maybe it's he skirts around the tough stuff. I would say however give it some more time but make it real clear to him you don't like this attitude. Then maybe if he changes you can have a good therapy time with him anyway, but if he keeps yawning, skirting around subjects and blaming it on you, I'd seek a new therapist.

[mcl6136]

my two cents here is to trust your gut. You would not have written about the yawning and "tough nut" stuff unless they were BIG CONCERNS. I may be projecting here but I wish I would have heard my own heart and acted and not spent so many months trying to reach my T...and had moved on. I am joining Astidetal in saying these are red flags and you may want to think about seeking someone new.

[vanessaG]

ya ill give him more time i guess. Its so hard to know, i dont want to waste my time, but at the same time i dont wanna give up so early because i feel were going no where ...idk im just gonna stick it out for now.
It seems like he has a idk-whatever attitude almost-or maybe its just me? When i was telling him bout my mom issues, it was like i was talking to a coworker-just telling him the basics of it but not really any detail. then its like by the end of the session he was like ok! conquered that topic, on to the next! Im like wow, really? Maybe hes trying to get me to trust him by taking baby steps, idk!
I know this sounds superficial, but i figurered since he has a phD that he'd be better? i guess thats not always the case...
I dont really feel comfortable confronting him with my issues yet...im a bug wuss, lol but ill stick it out and keep you updated! I have my nxt appt on Mon.....im already anxious about that!!
When I go next week, if I still feel the same and hes acting the same, im going to search for someone else. I cant see myself opening up to him if hes acting the way he is and i dont see him trying to hard to 'get me to open up'....
gahhhh why cant i just find a good therapist the 1st time??!