In 6 months of therapy, I've had four dreams about my T. In three of them he gets close to me physically (but not closer than about 3 feet), and I get uncomfortable and move away. I told him one, and the other two are on the agenda for the next session. I also had a dream about 1 month into therapy where he gave me a hug, but I'm not telling him that one. He might interpret it as a desire to have him hug me, and that wouldn't do at all.

I was wondering if other people have dreams about their T, and if so, do you relate them in session?

I have a kind of recurring dream about trying to find my T, but not being able to find him. Sometimes it's my old T; sometimes it's my current T. I always have this dream when my mood is starting to plummet. I've told my T about the dream. He finds it perceptive and telling.

[skysblue]

Oh yes, I've had dreams about her. Not many and I do tell her about them. I tell her about all the dreams that I find interesting.

[vaffla]

Yes, i have dreams sometimes... I actually long for those dreams, because I find them very telling. I tell her every dream about her that i can remember. I love dreaming about her...

I had one recently, and it was a strange one because in it he completely ignored me--I was in a group session for some reason (which I am not in real life) and trying to get his attention but he kept acting like I wasn't even there. This is the exact opposite of how he actually is, and I think I'm going to mention it because he's big on dream analysis and I have some ideas of what it probably meant.

[stopdog]

I have a re-occuring dream about therapy where I am in an office and I cannot tell if it is my t or not and we go along and discover that I have been talking to a person I do not know and who does not know me and neither of us realized it until the session was almost up. I don't really tell my t about dreams because she has never really asked except about nightmares and although this is unsettling, it is not really a nightmare.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I don't really tell my t about dreams because she has never really asked ...

Long story short, an acquaintance once meant to change my life, I suppose, by asking me (while I was eating dinner by myself at Big Boy's), "What are you doing?" So in the spirit of paying it forward, and also trying to be a little less obtuse (abstruse, Byz?) than he was, may I add, "What are you waiting for?" Not just in relation to this thread.

[elliemay]

I dream about my therapist a lot. He is always interested in my dreams, but he is very interested about those with him in it.

It is funny how his role in my dreams has changed over the years as we have slowly chipped away at the iceberg that was me.

I always tell him.

I've had dreams about her and tell her about them. Usually she is a teacher in my dreams.

[Butterflies Are Free]

Yes, I have had several dreams about my T - I usually write them down and bring them into my session so I can share.

[learning1]

I'm kind of jealous of you all who are comfortable to tell your t about your dreams. I don't think I could tell my t even if I had a dream about him that seemed pretty meaningless. I don't think he wants me to be so focused on therapy, so telling him I dreamed about him would make it seem like I'm focused on it.

I had one a very long time ago where my t was a salesman in a run down neighborhood and he was laughing at me. That's not very flattering to him I don't think and I didn't tell him. I think I had another one about him but I've forgotten it.

[Wren_]

I dreamt about him last night, then woke up and read this thread ... it felt like such weird timing. He was more of a guidance counselor than a T in my dream though; and I was much younger ... it was a really detailed, scary and unsettling dream where in it he made several comments that were critical of me, and then near the end he gave me a look that was pure disgust Even though it was like that I still wanted to return to the dream Don't think I'll share it with him

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by hankster

Long story short, an acquaintance once meant to change my life, I suppose, by asking me (while I was eating dinner by myself at Big Boy's), "What are you doing?" So in the spirit of paying it forward, and also trying to be a little less obtuse (abstruse, Byz?) than he was, may I add, "What are you waiting for?" Not just in relation to this thread.

I am not really waiting for anything - I don't have a need to tell her about them as far as I can tell and since she has not asked, I assume she has no reason to want to hear about them.

[mixedup_emotions]

I dream about my T often. Actually, I even think about him each night to lull myself to sleep. He is aware of this, as I've told him. I tell him that I imagine being in his office or that we're walking in his garden - and it helps lull me to sleep.

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I shared a pretty intimate dream that he was in once....about an abuser hurting me in his office, and that there was nothing he could do about it...and then afterwards, me sitting on the floor with him sitting next to me, holding my hand.

I haven't told him any of the sexual dreams though....

[sunrise]

Yes, I have dreamt a number of times about my T. I have shared some of those dreams with him, especially the ones that feel significant. I also share other dreams with him that do not have him in it. I love doing dream work. I find talking about dreams a good way "in" to topics that I find hard to talk about or issues that I have difficulty raising. On the night before my second session ever with T, I had a dream with him in it. I shared it with him the next day at therapy and we were off to the races! He is very welcoming toward dreams. They are a window into the unconscious (manna for the T?). I don't dream as much as I did in my early days of therapy, I think because a lot of the turmoil in my life has died down. I kind of miss all the dreams...

[granite1]

i dont usually remember many of my dreams .but i do remember dreaming about my T once.i never did tell her about it but i did write it in my journal so i could remember it.

[WikidPissah]

I had a dream about T a few nights ago. He was chopping wood in the backyard and I couldn't get him to stop. I think all the chainsawing from the hurricane had a lot to do with it. Nope, won't tell him

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

He was chopping wood in the backyard and I couldn't get him to stop.

I GOTTA figure out what this one means! He's working very hard to get thru to you? He's your handyman?

Anyway, last night I dreamed I had a LIFE. I attended a concert and looked for my T in the crowd but didn't see him, Dolly Parton was walking around looking "normal", and once again I was back in my parents' house, my old bedroom, my old neighborhood, and traffic was coming the wrong way in the left lane.

My T usually opens a session by asking if I've had any dreams ... unless we're well into some other topic. He's extremely good at interpreting them - frighteningly so, actually. Every time he interpets a dream he's just spot on - it's kinda scary to have someone climb inside your head like that.

T says that dreams come from the unconscious and that hearing a dream is like "talking to another person." Since I'm not real good at getting into touch with my emotions consciously, this seems like a good thing. I can just sit back and and let my unconscious talk to him. They seem to speak the same language.

Dreams about T are tricky, because I'm embarrassed to admit I'm dreaming about my therapist. It seems so .... personal. I've decided to go ahead and tell him the two that are about him and see what he says. I plan on grabbing several pillows from the sofa and wrapping my arms around them. Then of course I'll be looking at the red oriental carpet while I tell them. Body language, anyone?

[Marie123]

Yes I do and I always tell him. One of them was really embarrassing and SO ironic (he is also a clergy member)...I dreamed that I told him I wanted to "worship" his....well you know....LOL....we have been together a long time and there isn't anything we can't discuss (or haven't!!)_

[skysblue]

One time my dream was that my T came to my house to cook a delicious meal but then she put an ingredient in the meal that I'm allergic to and I didn't know how to be polite and tell her since she had made such effort.

In my latest dream my T is trying to kill me. I'm not in terror but just trying to hide in the crowd. I create fun stuff for her to do. There's a party and everyone's dancing and so is she. She's having fun. Then I ask her, "So, you don't need to kill me anymore, do you?" And she answered, "yes, I do. It's not personal, you know." I was very disappointed that my attempts to distract her were not working.

Yes, I share my dreams with T.

LOL LOL LOL!!
Marie123, you make me feel positively repressed. How wonderful that you're able to discuss anything with your T! That is my goal, and maybe I'll get there someday. He's not the problem, I am. But then again ... I guess that's why I'm in therapy.

[delicatefade26]

I have had a few dreams about my T, the only one I can remember clearly involved me sitting in a group of people who were all talking about him and I physically was unable to open my mouth to say anything about him...and I remember feeling like I couldn't let anyone know that he was my T...and they were saying some bad things about him-but I just couldn't speak...I haven't told him that I've dreamed about him...I'm not sure I will...
It makes me wonder how often our T's dream about US!! I don't think I would want to hear it (or maybe it would be a good experience-I'm not sure)

[laceylu]

I had a dream about T. I finally shared. Hoping not to dream like that ever again, it was the worst dream I have ever had. I am still processing it weeks later.

I dreamt that I remembered that I'd actually met T before, a few years ago, through a friend, and that she'd tried to help me back then but I'd laughed it off. It felt like recognition, like, 'ahh! That's who you are!'

This might be because T looks a bit like someone I used to know, and in my dream it was her who introduced us...

Or it might be because lately I've been thinking 'if only I went to therapy earlier' - but in this dream (as my younger, thinner, somewhat brighter self) I wasn't ready for therapy.

Bit weird! In dreamworld it all made perfect sense, lol