[vanessaG]

Not sure why i was even looking.... But i found him. Everything is pretty much private but a couple pictures.

1 of his 20ish son n his gf and other just him. And apparently he has a 20ish daughter too. I wntd to add him as a friend but im sure he will be too weirded out that i looked for him! Ugh now i feel weird! Why why why did i even do that search

[Wysteria]

Originally Posted by vanessaG

Not sure why i was even looking.... But i found him. Everything is pretty much private but a couple pictures.

1 of his 20ish son n his gf and other just him. And apparently he has a 20ish daughter too. I wntd to add him as a friend but im sure he will be too weirded out that i looked for him! Ugh now i feel weird! Why why why did i even do that search

Hey Vanessa...

Don't freak out..in this day in age you can hardly avoid it. This issue has come up lots of times before in different posts and such. I can't speak for everyone..but usually it seems most people would rather not be"friend" their T's in order to keep their own privacy and their T's as well. Usually the T wouldn't respond or would just let you know that maybe it's not a good idea anyway. My Outlook went and found my T's picture from FB and attaches it at the bottom of every email as I'm writing. I told him at one point because I felt embarrassed. He said that the picture that he posted of he and his wife he considered to be perfectly appropriate for the public, and he made the choice very consciously. I know I would never want him to see some of the things my friends post or that I post sometimes with my friends. Don't fret too much...

Relax and take care of you!
Hugs,

WB

[cmac13]

I guess i don't understand. Why would you "friend" him? He is not your friend he is your therapist.

You might just put him on your blocked list so that you can't see his page anymore. Out of sight, out of mind.

[laceylu]

I searched my T and pdoc. I could not find them thank god. But it is like looking someone up in the phone book now, way to easy to cross boundaries!

[vanessaG]

I dnt know i was just curious about his life. What hes like outside the office. Putting him on my block list is probably a good idea. If i tried to "friend" him even tho were not friends and he denied it i would feel bad. Better not go there. Im not even gonna tell him i found him.... He'll probably think ima stalker!

[mcl6136]

Originally Posted by vanessaG

I dnt know i was just curious about his life. What hes like outside the office. Putting him on my block list is probably a good idea. If i tried to "friend" him even tho were not friends and he denied it i would feel bad. Better not go there. Im not even gonna tell him i found him.... He'll probably think ima stalker!

Better not to go there, it strikes me, is a great conclusion and shows that you are dealing with this....and stepping back...whew....take it from me, these kinds of intrusive things have a way of growing, becoming lightening rods, and can even spoil the therapy. It's very human to become curious, but that doesn't mean you have to act on every impulse. Buddhists have a thing they call "refraining," and you might want to google it. The whole concept helped me a LOT! Blessings, MCL

[likewater]

I agree it's human to be curious. Don't be so hard on yourself. Your T wouldnt put anything on the facebook page not meant for the public.you didnt do anything wrong. I' m going to google refraining. That sounds fascinating. If you are brave, mention what happened to your T. You might be surprised at T's response.ie probably understanding because you are probably just experiencing
transference