a little overwhelmed

granite1 · Oct 04, 2011, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by treehouse

Fins,

I really do appreciate what you wrote, and believe me, I have pondered that VERY THING so many times.

My oldest son is disgusted at how things are around here. He is very responsible, and very helpful and involved. I feel confident that he's not following in his dad's footsteps.

My middle son with aspergers seems to be watching the situation and thinking "oh YES, this is SO how I want my life to be". NOT cool.

My youngest is a little more like my oldest.

I think because I homeschool and we spend SO much time together, my boys (especially the oldest and youngest) think I'm the queen of the world. lol

But it is a REALLY tricky situation. I don't want to bad-mouth their dad, but I DO want them to know that this is NOT how a relationship should look.

I guess the good thing is that I am mad, and I am hurt, and I am exhausted. Maybe that is the first step towards things changing. I don't know. It's really, really, really, really hard (as you know).

I left a sobbing message for T tonight (2 actually, because I ran out of time on the first) about all of this.

My brain is all tied up in knots. Things tend to fall apart in October, always, and it's hard to know how much that is affecting my ability to handle things.

wow tree i'm sorry you seem to be so alone in dealing with this in your home.i so admire your strength in how much you put up with.i'm glad you were able to work things out so you can continue the T.i see how it is your stability

purple_fins · Oct 05, 2011, 10:26 AM

Thanks Tree, for understanding my post.

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I think because I homeschool and we spend SO much time together, my boys (especially the oldest and youngest) think I'm the queen of the world. lol

Heh, that is awesome.

I hope your oldest keeps his current mindset, that would be wonderful.

You're ahead of where I was-- in that, you're thinking about it(I'd just hoped it would iron itself out on it's own

what a dummy I was/am) and you have a T. to unload on.(I didn't have a T. until the damage was full speed ahead

...) I'm glad for you, I know how hard it is, yes.

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But it is a REALLY tricky situation. I don't want to bad-mouth their dad, but I DO want them to know that this is NOT how a relationship should look.

YES! tricky indeed! I never bad mouthed their father either-- after all -- they have parts of their father too.... seems bad mouthing him would be partly bad mouthing them and I couldn't do that, ya know.

I'm so glad for you that you have a T. at this stage in your life, a good one that is there when things get too heavy.

I regret that I was too far into my inner mental struggles, PTSD and dissociation to know that I could have benefited from a T.
You go girl! and, if you need an extra shoulder, someone to listen, to not feel so alone-- I'm here.

respectfully
fins

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