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Oct 27, 2011, 03:55 PM
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So, as I am facing my T being gone a month while she's on vacation, I decided it would be good to reframe her absence. So, I decided that she really needs a break. She needs to get away and refresh herself. So, in my mind, I decided that it was my choice to give her a vacation. That point of view changes radically my feelings about her being gone.
I shared this with T. I told her I wasn't sure she would understand. She did understand and she thanked me for the vacation. She said this approach encourages the feelings of compassion. I told her that I didn't want to be a person hanging on to her and dragging her down but rather a person who is releasing her. And, so now I'm feeling happy she's taking a vacation. So, I think it's going to be o.k. with her gone. I reviewed with her my coping strategies and I believe all will be very manageable. |
 BonnieJean, CantExplain, Joanna_says, lastyearisblank, rainbow8
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Oct 27, 2011, 04:14 PM
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That's really positive
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Oct 27, 2011, 06:18 PM
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I like it. I like all of it. Sounds like a very sweet ending.
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Oct 27, 2011, 06:23 PM
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Nice job
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Oct 27, 2011, 06:24 PM
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Oct 27, 2011, 07:28 PM
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That's really good of you. I wish I could do that!! My T has been gone for nearly 3 months and it is driving me NUTS
 Thankfully we have email and occassional phone calls--the poor lady NEVER gets a break from me. You are good to give your T a break!
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Oct 27, 2011, 07:43 PM
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Oct 27, 2011, 07:50 PM
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I think this is a great way of approaching this!
A lot of times we just tend to see the "problem" and keep on replaying it in our heads. But only if we manage to get a different view on things we can really change the feel of things... |
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Oct 27, 2011, 08:00 PM
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Anne Does your T tell you that you like to be precise about these things? |
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Oct 27, 2011, 08:12 PM
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Can you give yourself a vacation of some kind as well while T is away?
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Oct 27, 2011, 08:49 PM
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Oct 27, 2011, 08:51 PM
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Oct 27, 2011, 09:20 PM
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Oct 28, 2011, 08:02 PM
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skysblue, awesome reframing!
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~ 
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Oct 28, 2011, 08:08 PM
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Don't forget you can still call her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Oct 28, 2011, 10:48 PM
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