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Nov 09, 2011, 07:15 PM
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Not only did I not get into details about the thing I most wanted to talk about, but I actually said "I don't want to talk about that" to T.
 And he took me at my word. I feel really crappy now. I guess I need a psychic and not a T. har har. I am so disappointed. |
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#2
Nov 09, 2011, 07:22 PM
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Sorry the session didnt go the way you had hoped...maybe write it out and take it with you next time? Thats what I do when I have had/know I will have difficulty getting started.
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Nov 09, 2011, 07:30 PM
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What did you need him to say when you refused to talk about it? There is usually a reason we push away from a topic. And sometimes the act of not saying anything says the most about it.
When this happened to me about one issue with T, he also did't press it. That is their training. They want us to tell them what we need. It is a skill. So I wrote an email that said something like "I did't want to talk about that, so you let me take control of the session. But I was hurting and I needed you to see that my pain was too deep for me to even face. ". There was more to it, but after I got it out, he wrote a kind reply and let me know he did see my pain and was glad I shared it with him. He still will not try to drag things out of me, but I know now that it is MY job to BRING these thing into the room with me.
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Nov 09, 2011, 08:39 PM
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He's there while you go at the pace that's comfortable for you
 Not talking about something is about many things. It might be that you suddenly felt a need to feel your power, and that's how it happened to surface for you this time. There will be a next time. In the meantime, 
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#5
Nov 09, 2011, 10:02 PM
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I knew right when I said that I didn't want to talk about it that I was setting myself up for unhappiness. I knew he wouldn't push me. I knew I needed to ask for what I needed.
What I should have done at that point was say what I was thinking, which was "Argh! Why did I just say that?! That is not what I want to say!" Instead I just sat there with my heart pounding, feeling paralyzed and unable to do anything. And when we were scheduling our next session he mentioned termination which is bothering me now too. Blah.
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Nov 14, 2011, 06:12 PM
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Quote:
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Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
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Nov 14, 2011, 06:23 PM
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Maybe you were warming up for next time?
Be tough on yourself but not too tough!!! You will do this. it will unfold in its own time, at its own pace. Thanks for keeping us posted...... |
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