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Old Dec 07, 2011, 07:54 PM
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I never believed it before, but in my session today I realised it was true: I'm a good father.

We were talking about nurturing my inner baby, and I was saying to T, "You're the mother I needed." And then ... I suddenly had this image of T and me bringing up a baby together, and the baby is also me. OK, so I haven't been a good father to myself yet, but I know I can do it.

I have been a good father to my own daughter. There's really nothing to see, but I am always there, and that's what counts. Being a good father is important. I should be proud! No one can take that away from me. My daughter will carry it with her long after I am dead. I'm a success! I'll never think of myself as a failure again.
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Old Dec 07, 2011, 08:11 PM
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I never believed it before, but in my session today I realised it was true: I'm a good father.

We were talking about nurturing my inner baby, and I was saying to T, "You're the mother I needed." And then ... I suddenly had this image of T and me bringing up a baby together, and the baby is also me. OK, so I haven't been a good father to myself yet, but I know I can do it.

I have been a good father to my own daughter. There's really nothing to see, but I am always there, and that's what counts. Being a good father is important. I should be proud! No one can take that away from me. My daughter will carry it with her long after I am dead. I'm a success! I'll never think of myself as a failure again.
I haven't been a very good parent to myself either. With my own kids it seems easy in the sense that I know what NOT to do (because of how I was raised.....I mean, obviously it's not as easy as this but you know:-)) I'm learning though. WTG to you for being good to yourself.
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Old Dec 07, 2011, 08:19 PM
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Good to know this about yourself.
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Old Dec 07, 2011, 10:34 PM
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I bet you really ARE a good father. What an awesome thing to realize and OWN.
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Old Dec 08, 2011, 10:56 AM
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i'm so glad you can see this.love is everything sometimes.you dont need to be perfect.who is but when you are always there and love her whith all your heart how can you be wrong
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Old Dec 08, 2011, 11:01 AM
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What a great insight and help to you in the future when you are doubting yourself.
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Old Dec 08, 2011, 02:29 PM
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Thanks guys!
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