[kasva]

hi people.........i've never had a dream with any t in it. last night i dreamt about mt pdoc/psychotherapist t. it wasn't romantic thankfully (she's a she and i am too ) but it was really weird to me. i'll probably tell her about it but i'm not sure i'll have the nerve to. in the dream, she was going to a conference and she needed to stay at my house overnight. at one point she was sitting on her bed and i was sitting next to her on the bed. she put her arm around me....and i didn't feel threatened or weirded out at all.it felt peaceful and safe...safer than i've ever felt. next she was leaving the next morning and she couldn't get out of my house soon enough. the rest of the dream i'm following her her around like a puppy dog so i can get that feeling back......
i don't think it's a a romantic dream do you guys? i'm not sure it's necessary to tell my t but maybe it would be helpful to tell t? it leaves me a little mixed up and it makes me yearn for that safety........................kasva

[Perna]

Dreams are dreams. I got so I enjoyed dreaming about my T, those dreams were the most help for me as they were about my issues at the time. When I would dream about my T or my husband, I knew I was "safe" and it was okay to work on whatever the dream had actually been about.

The actions aren't necessarily what dreams are about; T's tend to follow the emotions, so your feelings when dreaming what you were dreaming could be much more important than the symbolism of your T sitting beside you and putting your arm around you. I dreamed I had my head in my T's lap (mine was female as I am too) and she was stroking my hair! That was a fun one to confess but better than the one where she and another female T I'd had in the past were lesbians on matching doorsteps of matching houses (they were both married mothers) as I walked by on the sidewalk below. But I recognized the symbolism there (I was working with disentangling my mother and stepmother from one another in my psyche) and knew it was not literally about my T.

Your dream made me think of how we sometimes think T does not want us, with her anxious to leave the next morning and your following her around; I would take the dream to mean you may think or feel one way about T but that T herself and her behavior (sitting next to you and putting her arm around you) is the "actual" situation. If it were my dream I would be looking at how I am trying to "get that feeling back" as if it is dependent on another person for its existence. It seems to me from your having the dream that you might have you a great therapist for yourself!

I would tell your T the dream; it is just a dream and very good "practice" with discussing something meaningful to both of you! That's what therapy is about and I think your T will be able to help you feel better and safer within yourself.

[kasva]

wow! thank you perna. what you wrote is very interesting to me. a totally different way than i was looking at it. your response feels truer than my reaction. i see t later this afternoon and i will try very hard to bring this up...............kasva

[skysblue]

Yes, discuss it with your T. I've had dreams of my T and I've shared them with her. It's kinda fun actually.

[pbutton]

T once told me that lots of people dream about him. How strange it must be to know that. lol

[Elli-Beth]

My T was a vicious dinosaur in a cage I was trying to escape into, not out of... We had a long talk about that one!

[stopdog]

One of the ts I go to is always trying to be in my dreams. I will tell her about my recurring nightmares and she will interpret it as having something to do with her - even though it is not about therapy or therapists. I have never dreamed about either t specifically although I have had dreams about being at an appointment but with an unknown or faceless t.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by kasva

at one point she was sitting on her bed and i was sitting next to her on the bed. she put her arm around me....and i didn't feel threatened or weirded out at all.it felt peaceful and safe...safer than i've ever felt.

Did your mother ever do this? I don't think it's sexual at all.

[kasva]

my mom was not one who hugged....plus she s. abused me so it's all mixed up.

No, I don't think it's romantic. It sounds like it's about love. And a lovely dream, actually! That feeling of being safe sounds wonderful. I would certainly tell her. I dream about my T so often he's threatening to charge me overtime for all the time he spends in my dreams

And yes, it IS embarrassing to tell him I dreamed about him.