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I've just realised - I have no recollection of how much make-up my T uses.
I guess cosmetics just don't matter to me.
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I also have no idea if my T uses makeup. I'm sure it's not anything plastered on - I might notice that but otherwise...
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Wow. I know how you feel in my own context. I was never taught how to do make up. I wasn't taught how to do a lot of things. And I have this desire to talk to T about it, but it feels embarrassing that there's this list of "basic things to do" that I don't know how to? Well, I talked to T about it in a general way a few weeks ago, about feeling like I don't do things "the right way" or the way other people do it. And it makes me feel inferior. And she told me she "knows people who don't know how to wipe their butt, seriously". But I still haven't had the guts to really come out with all the things on my mind where I feel clueless.
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I don't wear much makeup but I have been reading and thinking about this thread. Something resonates with me and I think it is what makeup symbolizes. Makeup symbolizes femininity and I have never felt that femininity is a natural part of me. I never was into girly things, but I honestly don't know if that is something real about me, or was something I developed as a way to be very separate from my mother. If I accepted the feminine part of me, then that made me more like, rather than less like, my mother.
Anyway, does anyone else think makeup my be symbolic and related to femininity and/or mothers? |
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Makeup as rebellion has been a teenage staple for fifty years - for as long as teenagers have existed, in fact.
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For me, it's not an issue of femininity and/or mothers, but I can easily see how it could be. If your mother wore lots of makeup or indicated that women are supposed to wear makeup, then trying to distance yourself from that could translate to not wearing makeup. For me, I think wearing minimal makeup is an attempt to be more authentic. I live behind so many masks in my personality and behaviors, that I try to at least keep my appearance "un-masked" by wearing minimal make-up (very light foundation, lip gloss, light mascara). I hide behind my words, my body language, my actions, presenting the "face" that I think others want to see. But, it is not what I want to do, I want to show people the real me, so the minimal makeup is an attempt to show the real me without possibly offending others with showing my real personality or real thoughts.
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I've thought about this a bit more.
Early on, I did feel inferior to T. She was so powerful and in control! I had serious issues with that. I did not trust power, and I wanted to be the one in control. But gradually I learned to live with, work with and love someone more powerful than myself, and to accept her rules without resentment or rebellion. Power and control are no longer such important parts of my self-worth. This is not a place I ever wanted to get to! The solution, as I thought then, was to become so powerful and controlling that T would bow down before my superiority.
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Thanks for your response and for bringing my attention to some things.
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