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Dec 21, 2011, 02:44 AM
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Hi,
I'm new here. I see a T, but she is on 4 week break. I've not been doing well, ringing crisis lines every day just to get me through. I phoned one last night and I got through to a really nice lady. She thought I was younger than I am and I kind of lied (I went back to when I was that age and told her things that were going on for me then as if they were happening now) She was so kind to me and I felt like such a fraud, but it really helped as no-one took care of me then. She said I touched her heart and she really wanted to help. I cried. Am I a terrible person for lying? I feel really bad that she was so nice to me when she shouldn't have been. Please be honest, it's hurting me what's going on in my mind |
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Dec 21, 2011, 08:37 AM
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I think that if you needed to have those past feelings validated, and you received that validation from the lady on the crisis line, and it was helpful, then that's the important thing. It does not make you a bad person.
I often talk to my T about past events, and getting the validation that what happened was not my fault, was not right, etc is still healing even 20+ years later.
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Dec 21, 2011, 08:41 AM
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Dec 21, 2011, 08:41 AM
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No, you're not a bad person. I think it's actually quite a creative way to get some healing from that time in your past. We don't have the tools we need as children as we do as adults. You were coming from a genuine place as a genuine person, just time delayed.
It's so important to feel validated, you just came up with a creative way to do it. I hope things get easier for you. PC is a good place to get support while your T is gone. Take care. |
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Dec 21, 2011, 08:46 AM
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Dec 21, 2011, 04:24 PM
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Dec 21, 2011, 05:50 PM
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Doing this doesn't make you a bad person. You were receiving the comfort and empathy for the things that made you feel awful when you were younger. You were doing well to reach out. Welcome to PC, I hope you can reach out here some more.
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