[sjkero]

has anyone here ever confronted their t about feeling such anger towards them for stupid reasons... like laughing with other clients, walking other clients out, going over in time with other clients, acting close to other clients? or not responding emails and texts as quickly as you'd like them to because you need them so so much? it's so embarrassing to admit that my my attachment and immature need for her attention is making me an emotional basketcase and bringing up so much anger and jealousy.

if you've confronted your t, how did it go? i know i need to talk to my t about this at my next session (she doesn't know it's coming) but i need to know it's not going to be a complete disaster and ruin our relationship. i'm so scared she'll say that we shouldn't work together or somehow be defensive, like how can you be angry with me about those things? any lessons learned in bringing this up in session or any words of advice?

[roads]

I had this problem with a T I had in college. He seemed so much friendlier with the guy clients, and that bothered me so much I almost stopped going. Finally I wrote him a note and gave it to him at the end of a session. It told him briefly that I needed to discuss something at the beginning of the next session & would he allow time for that.

He did, so I had to bring it up. It worked out fine. Actually it all went better from then on. It took several sessions & we talked about it a little each time, but we worked it out.

[sjkero]

Originally Posted by roadrunnerbeepbeep

I had this problem with a T I had in college. He seemed so much friendlier with the guy clients, and that bothered me so much I almost stopped going. Finally I wrote him a note and gave it to him at the end of a session. It told him briefly that I needed to discuss something at the beginning of the next session & would he allow time for that.

He did, so I had to bring it up. It worked out fine. Actually it all went better from then on. It took several sessions & we talked about it a little each time, but we worked it out.

thanks. i know deep down it's best to discuss it... i just don't know how to go about it. i also don't want her, as a result, from now on to be overly aware of how she interacts with clients in front of me, or be extra attentive to me... because i'll know it's only because i said something, and that it's not genuine