Does your T touch you?

My T and I touch each other whenever we hug, often at the end of a session, but not every session. It's very nice and has been healing and positive. There has been no down side. We didn't hug at first, but within a year, I think we had started. T asked the first time, "share a hug?" I would never have initiated so I am glad he did. He asked permission with that phrase for a while. I guess he wanted to be sure I knew I had a choice. He doesn't ask permission now. We just do it. It feels very natural. We don't touch in other ways, though, like holding hands. Just a hug sometimes at the end of the session. I don't think the hugs significantly changed the relationship. They are like a physical confirmation of the closeness of our relationship. We would still be very close if we did not hug.

I have never hugged any of my Ts and no touching either. I'm glad there isn't because I am very uncomfortable being touched by anyone.

the only time I wish there was a hug was my last session with my T I'd been seeing 2-3times a week for over 2years, we gave each other nice letters though so that was okay.

because I spent so much time in hospital I got to know the nurses really well and they used to touch me alot, although I would always be uncomfortable. there was 2 nurses who I was comfortable touching and that usually just was them putting their arm around me when I was crying or something to bring me back to reality.

Some T's have a no touching policy. My old T had that policy but did hug me at my last session. I wrote about it here: http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=195856

If you are unsure as to why your T wants to hold your hand I would ask your T the question why?

Keep us posted.

My T is no touch although I would love it, probably too much hence no touchy!

After my bad session today I asked my T if he does hugs. I can tell I totally surprised him. I felt so low I was hoping he would say yes...BUT he didn't.

I'm not disappointed though. I just wanted to feel safer, because I was feeling so bad. Once I stopped to think, I realized that just being there with my T, I was safe enough.

I do wonder if he realized how BIG it was for me to ASK for it though. That kind of stuff terrifies me.

It was very brave to ask.

Aw thanks!

My old p/doc used to hug me and it felt wonderfully comforting, but I often felt I didn't deserve it.
My new p/doc doesn't do touch at all, but explained it as his problem, not mine.

My T doesn't touch AT ALL.....and I know he is against other T's in his office using touch. I know this cuz my ex-husband's T, who was part of my group T, was very big on hugs....and would hug me every time he saw me EXCEPT when my T was around. He told me later how he knows my T frowns upon it, so he doesn't do it when he is around. LOL....

There have been times when I was in the waiting room....and this other T's office is right next to the waiting room....when I was SO glad to see this other T there, so I could get a hug....I've even asked for one once and broke down in tears after I had learned about something significant that my ex had done.

But my T? Nope. Kinda makes me feel safe...and yet sad at the same time.