[jazzy123456]

Look at your old threads and see how you've changed. It can be helpful. You may realize something you never knew before or you may realize you pushed through some things & turned out to be stronger then you ever thought. Or it may help you pin point an area of struggle. Be mindful though, if it won't help you feel better it's okay to not peek back. ;p

I decided to re-post this advice I gave when I was seeing my other therapist

(now I have a new one)

Re-reading this reminded me of what therapy is all about and reminders are always a positive thing, at least the healthy ones

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This post is from sooooo long ago:
Here's what I think about therapy:
If we knew how to be "right" at everything we wouldn't be in therapy...

Give yourself some grace everyone, really. It's okay. We are all human.
Hurting--is a messy, messy thing...it really isn't going to come out in a neat, structured format all the time. In fact, all that messiness is the ingredient to powerful therapy...without it..well, how would we learn anything?

Secondly,

Acknowledge your feelings but, don't let them "smother" you.
Don't let your fear keep you from taking action.

So, what right now, are you holding onto--what type of "perfections"--that you have to say the right thing in therapy, that you aren't doing your homework the way your therapist would have liked, that you can't cry in therapy, or can't talk as much as you would like, the email you sent must always be worded correctly, you have to be completley comfortable/ know what to do about seeing your therapist somewhere other then therapy (possibly), you can't break down and have a panic attack, you have to keep it together...etc.etc...

Release those "RIGHT" feelings and allow yourself to be a little wrong in the therapy session. It sounds crazy---but, I feel we are all way too concerned with "getting it right" when we enter therapy... when in fact, the reasons we are there are the complete opposite. Everything has its time and place...and maybe you can't be wrong at work or wrong at school..but, therapy...well,... therapy is different...don't you think? It takes us allowing our therapist to see those "Wrong" places...so that our therapist can reveal to us the TRUE "RIGHT" ones.

With Love,

Jazzy
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