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#26
Feb 03, 2012, 10:04 PM
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#27
Feb 03, 2012, 10:11 PM
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I show up early and sit in my car... and wait.. maybe that is what you should do... be early because your comfortable with that but, wait in your car.
I get out of my car when it's time for session and then I am exactly on time. but, that's just cus I don't like waiting in offices...
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#28
Feb 03, 2012, 11:09 PM
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I am typically 5-10 minutes early as long as there isn't a traffic problem. I have severe anxiety about being late. When I first started commuting to get to T I kept calling her when I thought I would be late. Then I changed my schedule to give myself a few more minutes. And that has released a lot of tension. Plus they stopped the construction on the freeway for the winter.
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#29
Feb 03, 2012, 11:39 PM
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with my T i am usually really early.. i have a group in the same building that finishes 1hr or 30min before my T appointment so i usually just sit in the waiting room and talk to other clients seeing other workers and my T sees me early if she can.
but if i don't have a group before i'm usually 15min+ early because i like to have time to calm down in a space that feels safer than being on the bus/walking through the shopping centre etc. i have been late before, even so late that i didn't bother going.. but there were different reasons each time. |
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#30
Feb 03, 2012, 11:40 PM
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I'm usually never on time for things...but therapy is the only place I HAVE to be there early-to give myself some time to sit in the waiting room (I'm usually the only one in there) and to attempt to focus...my T is not known for his punctuality-but it's never that bad-usually 5 or 10 min late or exactly on time...lol never early though ; )
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#31
Feb 04, 2012, 12:01 AM
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I am early for therapy when I get to see him in person. If I'm more than 15 min early, I walk around and get a coffee. If I'm about 10 minutes early I hide in the bathroom to avoid seeing his outgoing patients. (I get insanely jealous!) 5-6 min early, I read one of his magazines in the waiting room, careful to pick one that he would approve of (Scientific American vs "People" lol) I am so silly when it comes to worrying about how others see me!
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#32
Feb 04, 2012, 12:08 AM
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And yes, sometimes I will wander around outside and get coffee or something if I am super early.
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#33
Feb 04, 2012, 12:38 AM
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i used to arrive 2-3 hours before my appointment. it helped me develop safety there. seeing how things were consistently calm there. now i aim to arrive an hour beforehand. sometimes if i'm running "late" and get there with just a couple of minutes to spare, t will wait a few minutes before calling me in so i have a chance to calm down a little. we were just talking yesterday about how i'm weirdest person ive seen in his waiting room
guess this is just another one of my weirdities :\
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#34
Feb 04, 2012, 12:58 AM
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I'm usually there 10-15 min before my appointment time, but i'm getting to be like 5 min or less because my t ALWAYS runs about 10 minutes late
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#35
Feb 04, 2012, 04:57 AM
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I'm usually in the waiting room 10 minutes prior to my appointment. If I'm earlier I'll wait in the car. Since my appointment is right after work on Friday I'll take any excuse to get out of work early!!
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#36
Feb 04, 2012, 11:18 AM
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#37
Feb 04, 2012, 11:23 AM
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Sometimes I feel like there's some sort of game going on with my T and it's frustrating.
If I go early, I always have to sit and wait because he is running late. I HATE waiting. I hate running into other clients, I hate the atmosphere, I hate everything about it. If I go late, well then I usually still have to wait. It's like he is punishing me for running late. I cannot ever be right on time because I'm not sure what that is. |
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#38
Feb 04, 2012, 11:25 AM
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#39
Feb 04, 2012, 12:13 PM
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I am habitually early for everything, like 10 min, but for T I wait the time in my car and go into the waiting room right on time. I hate waiting. T is always 10-15 min late though so the wait is inevitable. This is a co-op so there are always a number of clients in the waiting room and it feels stuffy and yucky.
grasshopper....that is really unsettling. It would upset me quite a bit. Can you get up the courage to ask T why she is cutting your time short?
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Feb 04, 2012, 08:14 PM
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I also thought I was probably her first appointment back after xmas break so maybe she had the post holiday blues and just wanted a short session I just don't know .WikidPissah you are right it is very unsettling, i'm utterly confused and anxious! |
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Feb 05, 2012, 04:25 PM
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Recently I've been a couple of minutes late and she's waiting for me. Think that's otherwise known as resistance.
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#42
Feb 05, 2012, 07:35 PM
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I try to get there 10 minutes early so I have some time to just sit in the waiting room and breathe. It's usually the first time I get to sit down all day! My T is usually quite prompt, but on the rare occasion T is running behind, it's never more than 5 minutes. If traffic is clear and I get there with more than 10 minutes, I wait in the car until there are only 10 minutes till my time.
Now, I used to see a T that worked out of a home office. That was awkward! As someone who is ALWAYS early-on-time, it was hard cause I had to wait in the car until the previous client left. Talk about nerve-wracking.
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#43
Feb 05, 2012, 09:37 PM
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I arrive about 10 minutes early because I always have to go to the bathroom first. My T is almost always on time. I think she was late once in 2 years! She doesn't take time for herself in between clients so sometimes I see someone leave while I'm in the waiting room. Though the waiting room is also for a few other Ts, I've never seen anyone else there!
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#44
Feb 05, 2012, 10:34 PM
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10-15 minutes so i can relax
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#45
Feb 05, 2012, 10:51 PM
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I get to my appointment 30 minutes early because then its like having a hour and a half session. I may not be "with" him that extra half hour, but I'm near him. His office is just an extension of his presence to me. It's safe, and relaxing and i know he is close by. In a perfect world I would never have to leave, that way I would always feel safe.
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#46
Feb 05, 2012, 11:35 PM
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I'm always 15- 20 minutes early. I hate being late and would rather sit and relax then feel the anxiety from being on time or late.
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#47
Feb 06, 2012, 05:06 AM
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I am there at least 20 minutes or so .....
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#48
Feb 06, 2012, 05:07 AM
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15 Minutes ...
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#49
Feb 06, 2012, 11:14 AM
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I normally like to be 5-10 minutes early for everything. The thought of being late makes me quite anxious - my Mum taught me that it's disrespectful to be late (unless it's a genuine emergency).
However T and Pdoc are both always late (5-15mins usually), and sitting in that waiting room (they're in the same building) freaks me out so I make sure I get there bang on time. I'm always terrified before my appts and so adding more waiting time just feels like I'm torturing myself! My Uni Pdoc was always really late (regularly 45-60mins, once 2 hours late!), but he was worth the wait, and his waiting room wasn't so scary. Once I figured out that he was never going to be on time and I needed to bring something to read (and not to schedule anything for after his appt because I'd probably never make it on time!), I didn't mind. *Willow* |
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Feb 14, 2012, 02:04 AM
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I prefer to arrive early rather than late. I walk up and down on the street in front of her house until it's time to go in.
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