therapy and sexuality

i'm wondering if and how anyone has broached the subject of sexuality with t?
i find it dfficult to open up to my t a lot and this is a subject that is coming up regularly in rl right now and i think its influencing the work i am currently doing in therapy but i dont know how to talk about it!
any ideas?
thanx

My T discusses sex the exact same way he discusses the fact that I took my cat to the vet.... engaged, calm, and insightful.

I now have a certain spot on the carpet that I look at when I tell the hard stuff. The only way I know how to do it is to remind myself how proud I will be that I managed to get it out there.

My T is pretty shy and seems uncomfortable discussing specifics about sex, but okay with sexuality in general. I look at my favorite tree out the window and then just try to get it out there.

I don't mind. I am pretty (maybe even too much) open about sexuality but only when talking to a male T/friend. I can't imagine discussing it with a woman.

In the beginning of therapy I have asked my T few personal questions about sexuality just to test him if he can handle it. Luckily for me he passed with flying colors.

My T and I are both women yet it's been hard to talk about sex with her. Easy for her; hard for me! But I'm doing much better because I need to talk about it with her and she's accepting of anything I say. Nothing is TMI. It becomes easier with time, so I suggest just doing it! Grit your teeth and start talking, even if you have to look at the floor. It's T's job to talk about anything that bothers us, including sex. Good luck with this.

It's not easy I become fixated on a spot on the floor or her shoes lol I remember she asked me how long was it since I was last intimate with my husband lol I thought I was going to pass out. Right now we r working on sensitive issues which involves the word sex in it and trust me not easy but doable

I'm still trying to work up the courage to talk about this in therapy.

I talk about sexual issues, but hardly ever talked about it with my former T, who I have seen for ten years. My current T just makes me feel safe enough and close enough to talk about it. It is not easy, but I talked with her about masturbation, fantasies (including fantasies about her! ) foreplay, orgasms. Basically everything.
Good luck to you! I know it's hard...

It took me a while to talk about sex and sexuality with my T because I am still somewhat confused about it. I finally just jumped in and even though it was hard, I felt better. I still struggle at times but I know I need help and I know that my T does not judge me.

When I first wanted to talk about sex with my t I simply asked him this.......
So how many times a week do you and R (wife) have sex?

He pretty much hit the roof.

Conversation started!

Sometimes it helps to open it up with writing a journal entry for therapy (about sex) and then bringing it to T.

Hasn't come up yet, but I imagine it will in time. I generally am not comfortable talking much about sex in and of itself, so I think that part will be awkward.

However, I have had no issue talking about my bisexuality. Go figure.

I usually take the coward's way first and send an email talking about thoughts/feelings going on surrounding sexuality stuff. And then, if I bring it up at all, I simply reference "So... regarding the email..."

Or I have brought in typed up letters and handed them to her for her to read and let her start

I am quite a sexually frustrated person, and I've written things about it (several pages) and sent it in before my appointments. It's easier to get it out that way. She's very professional and kind when talking about this.

Yes, definitely. And it was very helpful.

thanks for all your replies and support. I've tried really hard to broach the subject and it just keeps getting stuck in my throat so i have written an email and maybe that will give me the courage to talk about it in my next session

There isn't anything my t and I cannot disscuss....and we have....that I am in love with him, sex, death, body parts...you name it....he is an open book! I am very open and forth coming; he considers me a colleague, because I am studying to be a counselor.

I was always embarrased by sexual words (growing up in the 50-60's) so use prettier words for body parts......Bird of paradise and Chrysanthemum.....if you can guess what those are, LOL, LOL...it amuses him

nicole, hey I grew up in the 50's and 60's too. Is THAT the reason I have so much difficulty saying the anatomy words?!

umm... it's because you guys STILL haven't grown up? better hurry up, cuz pretty soon it's gonna be hard to say Chrysanthemum with false teeth! trust me!

I'm 27, but I have difficulty saying them too. Discussing this stuff with T was the last thing I thought I'd ever do, but I'm glad I did, it helped - and I'm pretty sure I can talk with her about ANYTHING else now Don't you just love it when there's no elephant in the room?

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Originally Posted by Kacey2 When I first wanted to talk about sex with my t I simply asked him this.......

Thanks for this! I laughed so hard I spit my coffee all over the cat who was sitting next to my computer!

Anyway, there is absolutely no subject that is off limits or TMI with my T, and we definitely get "down and dirty" with the smallest details, even when it comes to sex. He's pretty unflappable. Me - some stops and starts but his calm unfazeable manner makes it easier.

Now poor kitty's gonna get a caffeine buzz from licking herself clean?! Hope this doesn't keep her from getting her usual 18 hrs of sleep per day! Too cute!