Do you ever do this?

This morning I saw on the news a story about a fatality wreck overnight in the same area where my T lives. I had emailed him a lot last night and asked for a reply, but he did not reply yet at all. I saw the news and they are not releasing the names (which sometimes means it is someone with an impact in the community and they don't want to upset people).
But the picture they showed looked in the dark exactly like my T's truck.
So I wrote him asking if he was ok but no reply yet.

Do you guys ever have that happen where you think something bad happened to your T but rationally you know the odds should be against it?

YES! And it's understandable because our Ts is so important to us, because we're used to others not being there or abandoning us. I am sure your T is okay.

I often text or email my T to make sure she's still there and okay. When she goes on vacations, I am on such an edge! I check the news of where she is going and pay attention to whether any airplanes have fallen out of the sky.

Yes, but I do that with my kids also. It's one of my anxiety issues and it drives me nuts, and while I don't worry about driving my T nuts because he knows how to handle this stuff with me, I have to work very hard to not drive my kids nuts when I get anxious about them!

Still no reply from T. I will just take it that he is out enjoying the weekend.
Found out a close friend of mine got fired last night for a very much no-good reason (a simple facebook comment that was not even bad!) So I need to focus energy on helping her out however I can. I don't have many friends, so this is important to me.

I do this with meaningful people in my life.. I am sure there is a reasonable explanitation for your Ts not responding.. So sorry to hear about your friend's loss of job, I hope you are able to bring her comfort.

Sometimes it really does help to divert some of that anxiety into energy that can help a friend in need of support, especially when the anxiety is due to something completely out of our control.
Sorry to hear about your friend's experience... it really sucks the way facebook is being used by some employers these days. Comments are routinely taken out of context and used against people.
Hope you hear from your T. I know how hard this is.

omg i thought i was the only one when i watch the news about car wrecks i keep checking until they release names and i thought i was being paranoid i havent told her this

I use to do it all the time when my husband would be returning from a business trip, if he was late I'd decide when I'd start calling hospitals :-)

Hang in there WePow.

I don't know where my T lives so I don't do this. I can imagine it would be hard not to worry. I hope you hear from him soon. Remember there are many similar trucks out there.

Constantly.
My t told us yesterday we ought to start believing the " no news is good news" line of thought instead of the " no news means the one i love must be dead!" line of thought. its hard tho!!

I hope your T is okay. I do this with my T when she is on vacation.

My T didn't write back. So he must be out and about in the world. That is good.
The news released the names tonight and it was not him, so I am not worried now about him.

I did get to spend time with my friend and she needed us there. So I am glad I could help out another even when I was low. My T has been a great example for me on how to do this :-)

So glad you can put your mind at ease now... phew...

yes helping others can be a great sidetrack-- think that's why I've always volunteered since I was 16(with handicapped, homeless or some sort of charity work)-- takes my mind off of my self and my troubles.

I'm glad it worked for you too.

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I'm sorry for your worry time, WePow. This is why I don't contact my T even though she says to do so. I feel like it puts me in such a vulnerable spot. I sent an email on Wednesday, expecting a reply, even though I didn't specifically ask for one. I felt terrible when I realized that T didn't understand my needs. It is so hard for me to understand T communication standards.
I am glad you could be there for your friend! You have been there for me, too.
Thank you,
Bluemountains

I'm glad your T is all right, WePow, and that you could help out your friend. Yes, I worry about my T ALL THE TIME. It's getting worse, not better. I told her on Tuesday that I would see her next week if we were both alive. She said we would both be alive but I told her she couldn't be SURE. I try not to dwell on my fears because that doesn't help. Maybe that's why I'm trying to be as honest as possible in my sessions so I can accomplish a lot while there's still time. Yeah, kind of depressing. I do the same thing with my family, too. Worry a lot about them especially when they travel.

I think this reaction is natural.

I remember my wife getting worried about the Kobe earthquake because her bother was in Japan. He lived 500 miles away, but what if he'd gone to Kobe for some reason?

It takes a fairly low empathy, or an iron will, not to worry in such situations!