[stopdog]

Here is a link to an interview with David Wallin on attachment.

http://www.psychotherapy.net/intervi...-relationships

[Perna]

It's based on his book:

http://www.davidjwallin.com/PDF/Davi...chotherapy.pdf

[ECHOES]

Thank you SO much, stopdog I'm reading the book and it is nice to 'hear' his conversational 'voice'!

I really appreciated this]post, Stopdog. I even printed it out and plan to reread it and underline the parts that really meant something to me. . . along with writing my own reactions to what they were saying about the entire issue of connection and attachement in psychotheapy.

I can't help but notice (and totally not meaning to be forward or confrontatiive in my response) but I'm sure you couldn't help but notice that Wallis's first clinical example was about someone who struggles with avoidance attachement? Was that meaningful to you? Just thought that was interesting considering your resistance to attachment theory. Thanks for the link!

[CantExplain]

David Wallin said:

I felt I was on the witness stand dealing with an exceptionally brilliant and aggressive prosecutor, and my language had, consequently, to be bullet-proof.

Wow! I think that's how my T views me. She actually used the word "prosecutorial".

And Wallin's patient said that's how he felt. Is that how I feel? That the world is watching for the slightest misstep in order to condemn me?

And yet, if that were true, surely I'd get a physical response from reading this, and I'm not getting one.

Something to take to T, anyway.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by Jaybird57

I really appreciated this]post, Stopdog. I even printed it out and plan to reread it and underline the parts that really meant something to me. . . along with writing my own reactions to what they were saying about the entire issue of connection and attachement in psychotheapy.

I can't help but notice (and totally not meaning to be forward or confrontatiive in my response) but I'm sure you couldn't help but notice that Wallis's first clinical example was about someone who struggles with avoidance attachement? Was that meaningful to you? Just thought that was interesting considering your resistance to attachment theory. Thanks for the link!

I did not find that it struck a chord in me. The one I see does tell me I push her away and I don't disagree. But the resolution by Wallin did not sound useful or like it would cause a shift for me if that is what you are asking.. I kind of thought he sounds like an egotistical sort. I have read a book by him.

Thanks Stop Dog , this was a great article... I saw myself in there and it meant a bunch! And now I'm gonna hug ya!

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

Thanks Stop Dog , this was a great article... I saw myself in there and it meant a bunch! And now I'm gonna hug ya!

Thanks. The hug part is a little unsettling even in theory, but I will try not to dwell on it (imagine a smile thingy to show I am playing with you)

Originally Posted by stopdog

Thanks. The hug part is a little unsettling even in theory, but I will try not to dwell on it (imagine a smile thingy to show I am playing with you)

Ha Ha gotcha again!

You know what they say if you don't like it the first time try, try again .., or something like that

[beautiful.mess]

As I was reading this something felt oddly familiar about it....then I realized that I read it just the other day but on a different website. LOL! Good article.