[suzzie]

*not sure if this needed a trigger or not*



that you s/i. or is it better to wait. my first knew i did. but havent told this one. not that ive told her anything yet. but im taking some poems in tomorrow. she asked me to bring. and dont know if it would be appropriate to include one about s/i. i just want her to be aware of it. but dont know how to tell. is this something you should wait on.

[stopdog]

My feeling on the matter is the earlier you know how they are going to react - the better. If they react in a way that is incompatible with your wishes on the matter, then it is easier and less money wasted and you can move on and find another.

I say you go at your own pace in the moment. When you get there tomorrow if you feel like you can tell her, then go for it, but if not, then no. However, I think letting her know soon would be a good idea, like Stopdog said, this way if you don't get a response from her that you can work with, then you can move on before the T relationship develops.

[critterlady]

If you feel that you have a good connection with this T and you're comfortable with her, then I think it's better to share the things you think are the most important as soon as you can. That way, she can understand what treatment plan would be best for you. Also, if the T doesn't feel she's the right person for you to work with and wants to refer you, you'll know that much sooner.

[SpiritRunner]

you could bring the poem about s/i and if you feel comfortable/able/ready after seeing her response to the others, you can go ahead and share it. or not share it, if that seems like the right thing. I don't think you need to rush yourself, unless it really is a more like a crisis thing.

[InTherapy]

If you feel comfortable (or only a little uncomfortable) sharing it, then I would definitely do it.

You said that you weren't sure how to share it... but handing your T a poem is much easier than having to say it out loud, don't you think?

The more information a T has, the more they can understand where you're coming from and be able to help you.

If you feel not at all ready, then don't share, of course. But you posting this to begin with makes me think you probably could (and should!) share.

[BlessedRhiannon]

I wanted to tell my T, but I simply didn't trust her enough. It took me over a year before I could talk about it at all.

If you feel comfortable talking about s/i with your T, then go for it. Really, the sooner you can bring it up, the better. But, as my T has reassured me, they don't expect a client to share everything right away. It's okay if it takes longer to bring up some things.

[healed84]

It took me probably three months to tell my t that I used to do it and then another month after I started doing it again (I just told him yesterday, that I was doing it again)... I was actually very suprised with his laid back reaction towards it. It was the hardest thing that I have told T so far... It scared him b/c he was just getting up to end the session and I said there is something I need to tell him before we end the session and he said okay sat back down and sat there quietly waiting for what I had to share.

So, I waited until I was comfortable enough with T to share.. If you are feeling comfortable enough to.. go ahead, it will help your T understand you a bit more, I think.

[granite1]

i have never told T that i still SI.she saw the scars on my arms and stuff and commented on them and how i must have been hurting quite badly when i had done that.i didn't respond at all.she has never brought it up again

[InTherapy]

Originally Posted by healed84

It took me probably three months to tell my t that I used to do it and then another month after I started doing it again (I just told him yesterday, that I was doing it again)... I was actually very suprised with his laid back reaction towards it. It was the hardest thing that I have told T so far... It scared him b/c he was just getting up to end the session and I said there is something I need to tell him before we end the session and he said okay sat back down and sat there quietly waiting for what I had to share.

So, I waited until I was comfortable enough with T to share.. If you are feeling comfortable enough to.. go ahead, it will help your T understand you a bit more, I think.

I'm glad you were able to share with him, but you might want to read this article about last minute bombs. I know I've done it before at least once, but it's not a good habit to get into. Once I read that, I was able to identify it and (so far) prevent it from happening again.