[pachyderm]

Part of this article points out how putting non-verbal trauma into words helps with healing. Trauma can block out normally-formed memories, so they are not easily accessible:

http://blogs.psychcentral.com/healin...to-your-words/

Great article. Thank you for sharing.

[Perna]

Great summary what the article is about, too, Pachy.

Healing in a group is a powerful use of connection. Groups of many types offer an opportunity for validation, bearing witness, altruistic giving and containing the unspeakable aspects of trauma.

Go, PsychCentral!

[FourRedheads]

Oh my. Thank you, thank you for this. I am just beginning to tell my "story"...this is extremely helpful. I don't feel so odd and alone.

[stopdog]

Talking about it does not make it feel better to me. I just don't get it.

[PreacherHeckler]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Talking about it does not make it feel better to me. I just don't get it.

Then maybe we should just call you "hushpuppy."

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by PreacherHeckler

Then maybe we should just call you "hushpuppy."

I do talk, it just does not seem to help. And when others respond, I find it irritating. Validation and bearing witness is lost on me. Grumpypuppy

[PreacherHeckler]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I do talk, it just does not seem to help. And when others respond, I find it irritating. Validation and bearing witness is lost on me. Grumpypuppy

Maybe it would help to talk about that, Grumpypuppy.

[unaluna]

But puppy, you make good jokes. Shirley there is some gratification and "connection" there? I am in the middle of a BIG conversation with T about this now. He says I know amd feel more about connecting than I realize, while i'm saying I feel like I was raised by wolves.

[stopdog]

I have read the article twice now. Thanks for posting it. I wish I understood it. Maybe (she says with hope) I do not understand it because it is not related to my issues.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by PreacherHeckler

Maybe it would help to talk about that, Grumpypuppy.

I do. Sometimes I even tell the therapist " stop trying to be validating" but does she listen? No.

Originally Posted by stopdog

I do. Sometimes I even tell the therapist " stop trying to be validating" but does she listen? No.

Perhaps it's time to agree to disagree and she will continue to "do therapy" by validating you and you can continue doing something she finds equally annoying... A little tit for tat there - I love your perspective on things its always based in fact and reality- your my realdawg!

[PreacherHeckler]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I do. Sometimes I even tell the therapist " stop trying to be validating" but does she listen? No.

Tell her to stop hounding you.

[growlycat]

Oh good, I've missed Pachyderm! Glad are are still here