[CantExplain]

I've just realised I am angry with myself for having tried so hard to make it work.

[growlycat]

Did you quit your T just today? What happened?

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by growlycat

Did you quit your T just today? What happened?

I'm talking about the Bad Group I quit at the end of last year.
I still got issues and my T is still away.

[stopdog]

Cantexplain - did something happen today or are you talking about some past extherapist? I am sorry you are struggling with this and that the t is gone.

Just saw your new post.
When I quit the really bad one I felt free. At the end of the appointment she said " next week?" I said "no.". She said "no?" and i said "yes" and walked out with nary a backwards glance.

[growlycat]

It must have been bad. I had a bad group experience yrs ago, but it wasn't the leader as much as one girl who monopolized the time--the few times I called her on it I felt like the villain.

Yes, I have thought about an x-t, bad may be strong, but "bad for me" was more accurate.

I am feeling the stages of grief.

yup..the grief thing..

it's been many years now & i still get angry at myself now for being so stupid but i had never been in therapy before & it was a bad situation as i was caught between my dr & the bad t..no sense of privacy...it was crappy & i truly was stuck.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Cantexplain - did something happen today or are you talking about some past extherapist? I am sorry you are struggling with this and that the t is gone.

Just saw your new post.
When I quit the really bad one I felt free. At the end of the appointment she said " next week?" I said "no.". She said "no?" and i said "yes" and walked out with nary a backwards glance.

I would have loved to do that, but the idiot facilitator kept pestering me after I left. He ruined my exit!

OK, so I broke the rules by quitting suddenly. But as I say, I had already worked too hard at staying.

[stopdog]

It sounds to me like that guy broke the rules. They are not, in my understanding, supposed to come after you and try to drag you back or make you feel bad. If you break the rules, they might not let you back in, but harrassing you is just plain wrong.

[Perna]

I have a passage I would like to share from Peter S. Beagle's, The Last Unicorn, that literally changed my life and influences all my actions even today:

"My lady," he said, "I am a hero. It is a trade, no more, like weaving or brewing, and like them it has its own tricks and knacks and small arts. There are ways of perceiving witches, and of knowing poison streams; there are certain weak spots that all dragons have, and certain riddles that hooded strangers tend to set you. But the true secret of being a hero lies in knowing the order of things. The swineherd cannot already be wed to the princess when he embarks on his adventures, nor can the boy knock at the witch's door when she is away on vacation. The wicked uncle cannot be found out and foiled before he does something wicked. Things must happen when it is time for them to happen. Quests may not simply be abandoned; prophecies may not be left to rot like unpicked fruit; unicorns may go unrescued for a long time, but not forever. The happy ending cannot come in the middle of the story."

[critterlady]

The only time I quit a bad T, I felt enormously relieved. I was a little worried because I hadn't lined up a new one yet, but I had some referrals and the first one I called turned out to be exactly the right person for me.

[mcl6136]

Originally Posted by Perna

I have a passage I would like to share from Peter S. Beagle's, The Last Unicorn, that literally changed my life and influences all my actions even today:

I really just loved this, and want to thank you for posting it here, for me, on the very correct day....for me, your timing was amazing!

it was essentiaL for me to see this because I have a lot of regrets about not cutting my losses with my therapist...not getting out when I "should have" and spending so much bank in a situation that felt really destructive in the last months.

This post made me feel a lot better. i have a ways to go, but there is daylight at the end of the tunnel. And I don't feel like rushing into therapy to deal with the effects of the bad therapy. That, also, will happen in the fullness of time.

When it should.

When I quit a bad T in the past I went through phases of being happy, grieving, blaming myself and being angry, blamming them and being angry to eventually realizing that it was the right decision and what was in my best interest.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Perna

I have a passage I would like to share from Peter S. Beagle's, The Last Unicorn, that literally changed my life and influences all my actions even today:

So this is a wicked uncle situation?