[suzzie]

i forgot to book a next appointment at session today. so i emailed t for one. this is what i just got...

Hi suzzie....... (didnt think i should leave the actual email up)

we were talking about worst case senerios. and i mentioned money was a concern. guess i shouldnt have.

[growlycat]

So sorry suzzie--I'm thinking that's a conversation she should have had with you in person. An email seems like a cop out.

I'm confused--you didn't quit, you only raised money concerns...why is she acting like you might quit?

It sounds like he is just letting you know there is an option to help you out financially if that "worst case scenario " actually plays out in reality for you. It doesn't at all sound like he wants to drop you. He was trying to ease your mind a bit although clearly it had the opposite effect.

[suzzie]

the worst case senerio was just some exercise. i was to name the worst. and then a best. and wed work toward the best. i got homework to. but guess doesnt really matter now. this was my third session today. maybe she decided she doesnt want to work with me.

[mortimer]

I don't think she wants to drop you at all. Is there somewhere in particular that makes you feel like she is from what she said? I'm just curious.

What I read from it, and I may be wrong I'm pretty famous for reading the opposite what people say, is:

She wanted to confirm an appointment.

She wanted to offer you something that would be a helpful in a therapeutic way and a financial way. I think she mentioned good things about them because she wanted to make sure you knew you could potentially trust them.

She wanted to reassure you that she will be able to see you until you can get started up with them. She even said that she would make the call with you, and she'd "be disappointed to see you leave my services."

Maybe she emailed it because she felt like she didn't want to embarrass you in person? Money can be a touchy subject.

What do you mean worst case scenarios? I feel like I'm misunderstanding something.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by mortimer

What I read from it, and I may be wrong I'm pretty famous for reading the opposite what people say

I read it differently again.

T is saying, "I can see you in two weeks, but if you need to see someone sooner, here is an option you can afford."

But perhaps I'm just loved-up from my own session and like to see the best in everyone.

[suzzie]

she wants me to go there.

she wants me to come in two weeks. for a session. and say goodbye. and make that call. then go on the list. and see you just till i get in. i had no idea this would happen.

now i really dont get the point of the rock.

[ECHOES]

No, that isn't what she's saying. But what is needed is for you to talk to her more so you can know what she means instead of guessing.

She said "There is also..." , as another option for you to choose or in addition to her.

Could she be interpreting your forgetting to make an appointment as something else?

[mortimer]

I think you should email her and ask her what's up.

Maybe she'll surprise you.

At least you'll know for sure.

[suzzie]

if she is only suggesting it as an option. why does she say this..

~~If you are able to continue with me until you can begin there, then it could all work out even better.~~

[suzzie]

im thinking about emailing. but need to calm down first.

[mortimer]

Originally Posted by suzzie

if she is only suggesting it as an option. why does she say this..

~~If you are able to continue with me until you can begin there, then it could all work out even better.~~

I think that's she's just helping you plan.

She said that the clinic will have a wait list, right? I think she's saying that she really cares about you and making sure you won't have a lapse in treatment providers until you can get help at the free clinic. It will work out better for you because you will not be without help while waiting.

I think you should email her now. <3 sorry you feel sad right now. just ask her, "do you still want to see me as a client if i can afford it?"

[ECHOES]

Originally Posted by suzzie

if she is only suggesting it as an option. why does she say this..

~~If you are able to continue with me until you can begin there, then it could all work out even better.~~

Because she is offering a response to her previous sentence:

There is most likely a waiting period as it is a popular service.

I'm so glad you are going to clarify this with her, and give her the opportunity to say what her words are about. And so you can feel better

[Sannah]

Yes, if there is confusion it is very wise to clarify with her.

[suzzie]

thank you

realize this email was a major trigger for me.
her first choice/thought was to get rid of me. rather than try to work it out. guess its not worth it for her. and i expect too much.

[Perna]

Originally Posted by suzzie

i got homework to.

Don't think she would have given you homework if she wanted to drop you.

[mortimer]

Was this her first choice though? Didn't she discuss other options with you in session?

Are you afraid of working with her? Do you want her to drop you, are you talking about some really scary stuff right now maybe?

Have you emailed her yet?

[Asiablue]

I think her email sounds a little ambiguous and i know i would infer from it that she wanted rid of me, because of my issues. However, she sounds fond of you and i think she does want to work with you but also give you the information of another service which could take the financial pressure. She is giving you choices. I don't think any good therapist would give you homework, give you the rock to help you and then dump you via email. That is a conversation most would have face to face with their clients.

Do contact her and ask her to clarify so you can get some peace.

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by suzzie

her first choice/thought was to get rid of me. rather than try to work it out. guess its not worth it for her. and i expect too much.

These are only your assumptions. You won't know for sure until you discuss it with her and clarify.