So I posted a month ago about " Therapist did not offer a new appointment"

called once texted twice and still not a thing????

If she was sick/ familiy crises or what ever shold someone not contact the clients? Don´t know maybe I have not pushed hard enough to scheduale a new appointment ... but still.

Now I don´t even want to try thinking this is the way to dumb me but I can´t really figure it out. Would you keep calling and how would your emotions / thoughts/reactions be in a situation like this?

True feel she is a proffesional and don´t want to file a complaint its just weird! ( The last session was confusing but still)

[healed84]

Are you calling an office with a recptionist or just a personal phone that she answers? If I were in your shoes I would call more. Leave more messages. I would want to know why you haven't heard from her, then I would think of finding a new T. That is unprofessional in my opinion. Even if there was some kind of sickness or family emergency, some kind of explanition should be given. Keep calling!

Originally Posted by healed84

Are you calling an office with a recptionist or just a personal phone that she answers? If I were in your shoes I would call more. Leave more messages. I would want to know why you haven't heard from her, then I would think of finding a new T. That is unprofessional in my opinion. Even if there was some kind of sickness or family emergency, some kind of explanition should be given. Keep calling!

professional mobile phone i guess. The one I usually send texts and make a call to

[SpiritRunner]

Does sound odd and confusing and not quite right to me! I'd probably feel a mix of befuddled and pissed to not have a definitive answer ..... which I think you have a right to.
What happened/what was said in the last session you had? Anything to indicate that T was thinking it should be the last session; or is anything you might have said that gave T the indication you didn't really want another app't? Anything to indicate something was going on that would interrupt, if not end, therapy for a while?
Sorry if you posted things about that in your other thread ..... I don't seem to recall details from it right now.
But anyway, the situation as you've presented it here doesn't sound like right to me .... doesn't sound professional.
Maybe you could just leave a message that you will move on from that T - and then search for another, if you really feel you want to/need to continue with therapy?
Just some thoughts....

that doesnt sound very professional to us. if we were you we would keep trying to call until we got an answer of some kind. please keep us posted

[likelife]

That is super bizarre. Maybe give her one more call and also send a letter? Then again, I don't know how much energy I'd want to pour into contacting someone who hadn't gotten back to me in a month.

I think I would try to contact her at least a couple more times - could be an innocent explanation? It has been a long time though. Perhaps be ready to move on. Either way it's not brilliant.. hugs to you

[sunrise]

Can you try calling her again? You've only called her once. (Texts can easily go astray.) Also, if you have a different phone number for her besides her mobile phone, can you try that? Like an office phone? Maybe something happened to her mobile phone and she hasn't received your call or the 2 texts. I hope you get a hold of her soon and that something hasn't happened to her. If you have regular appointments with her and suddenly you haven't heard from her for a month--that is very strange.

[WePow]

I agree with the others about making the effort to try reaching out by phone again. I personally HATE being in the dark about anything. So I would call once today, twice Wed if no response, three times Thursday .. well you get the point. Sooner or later the T would either tell me what was going on or take a restraining order :-)

[pbutton]

It sounds like it is time to try calling again. I would try calling the office number to schedule an appointment.

[vanessaG]

I would keep calling till I got an anwser. It would drive me crazy not to know. How unprofessional of her. I hope she at leasts returns your phone call....

Originally Posted by likelife

That is super bizarre. Maybe give her one more call and also send a letter? Then again, I don't know how much energy I'd want to pour into contacting someone who hadn't gotten back to me in a month.

Thing is I don´t really want another appointment after this, still I just have a basic need to thank her for all she has done.

She did not bring her usual work papers in the last to sessions and we did not scheduale two or three sessions ahead only one BUT to end it like this seems a bit strange....what ever happend to goodbye?

Maybe I do need therapy maybe I don´t maybe its up to me to make more effort than by only calling ones and texting twice to prove I am motivated.
Who knows, I am tired, confused and don´t get it.

I have been going there weekly I don´t know if therapist are supposed to call clients when it´s been a month? I think she wants something from me that I can´t give her...the will to REACH out, talk talk talk AND show the vunurable and lonely child ...I don´t know??

[Perna]

I don't know the last time you called; presumably if she's not calling anyone back from that phone her message box will eventually get full?

I'd be curious, inclined to feel angry (if I expected to get an unsatisfactory answer) and, after a month, would probably resume my normal life and put something/someone else in place of that therapy. I'd call her again now and then in mid-May; it could be that I had not heard she was going away or she's had some complication where she can't get to the phone or can't be organized enough to let someone else help her. Or, the phone could have been lost or something. I'd go by the office and try for in-person or leave a note under the door?

[ECHOES]

If it is the same phone you are calling and texting to, I wonder if the phone is not functioning. I would go in person or, if there is office staff, call them. Sounds like it might just be a phone issue. It is strange though

Originally Posted by ECHOES

If it is the same phone you are calling and texting to, I wonder if the phone is not functioning. I would go in person or, if there is office staff, call them. Sounds like it might just be a phone issue. It is strange though

Its sort of a place where she has to answer the doorbell and shes not gonna do that if she is with a client and I would feel like stalking her. If something is wrong with her moblie I am sure some action would be taking,

I wrote ... hope to her frem you in a text. Maybe she feels or doesnt have time to call back but still......don´t think you just forget a weekly client. Then again maybe you do?

Originally Posted by lonelybychoice

Its sort of a place where she has to answer the doorbell and shes not gonna do that if she is with a client and I would feel like stalking her. If something is wrong with her moblie I am sure some action would be taking,

I wrote ... hope to her frem you in a text. Maybe she feels or doesnt have time to call back but still......don´t think you just forget a weekly client. Then again maybe you do?

No you dont... call leave a voice mail telling her to call you back regarding another appoinment or referral. I may also go by her office and tape a note on the door, while she was in session...she will have to see it, tell her if she is done treating you the least she could do was to let you know and potentially help find you a new T. My 2 cents

[WikidPissah]

yea lonely...just give her one more call...somethings screwy and you won't know unless you press it.

[critterlady]

I definitely would not trust texts. They get lost far too often. I was texting with a friend yesterday and about every 3rd text of hers to me never arrived.

Call each of the numbers you have and leave messages.

[ErinBear]

Everybody is different in how they handle things and deal with things. If it were me, and she works in an office with other counselors, and you know a number you can call there, I would try contacting the office to see if they have any information, and if they can leave a message for her there. I would also write a letter and mail it to her, or leave it at the office. Or both. If you are so upset that you want to leave it alone at this point, that is an option, but to me it sounds like you may want to have at least one more contact with her and try to understand what happened. If it was a good working relationship prior to this, perhaps she can explain herself somehow. Maybe there was some odd miscommunication, although it seems very hard to understand at this point. As others have said, it may also be possible that she lost her phone, or there has been some sort of personal emergency that she has experienced. But it still seems very odd.

If you feel the need to continue counseling, and you are not able to reach her, I hope you will give consideration to reaching out to another counselor as soon as you feel up to it. Just because one counselor acted this way doesn't mean that all counselors will. I once had a counselor who ended the relationship very abruptly, and it was very, very upsetting. I waited far too long to try counseling again (years). However, the next counselor I met was an entirely different story. We get along extremely well, and he's very thoughtful and considerate. He communicates very well, and is very consistent. Those people do exist.

I'm so sorry this happened. It's very upsetting, and it's so hard to try to contact the counselor and go without a response. It's very confusing. I hope somehow you can get some information, or the counselor might respond at last. That might be hard, too, but at least you might get some answers and you could make some decisions about whether you might want to see her again.

Take care,
ErinBear