[Dos3512]

How do you all continue moving forward with less than weekly sessions? It seems that everytime I try to go less than weekly I lose my focus and footing in moving forward. I just do not understand it and sometimes even start regressing.

[CantExplain]

Twice a week suits me best, but I can't really afford that.
I am currently considering bursts of twice a week, eg one months at twice a week followed by a month off, etc.

[mommyof2girls]

My t and I agreed to weekly sessions ( although sometimes I don't feel like I need to go that often ) ..... But I guess its for the best.....

[sconnie892]

Originally Posted by Dos3512

How do you all continue moving forward with less than weekly sessions? It seems that everytime I try to go less than weekly I lose my focus and footing in moving forward. I just do not understand it and sometimes even start regressing.

I see my t every two weeks and at times I do lose focus. Or sometimes my feelings/life is all over the place between sessions and it feels like there are too many things to cover in just an hour. I do a lot of writing between sessions to help me focus between sessions. I've started to review all my writing the night before my session so I can pinpoint what is important to cover. T often gives me homework to complete between sessions so that helps with focus also.

[Dos3512]

Thanks. Gonna talk to T about this on friday as i believe it is a HUGE hinderance to my growth. So we will see what she says.

[lostmyway21]

I go twice a week and at he mention of ever changing that I freak out. So he drops it and tells me not to think about it, because it's not anywhere in the near future. He does say I can't see him twice a week for the rest of my life, and I simply reply, yes I can. And then he shakes his head and says that's not progress. And I say I don't care, then we move on...because its a losing battle for him, and I will just start to totally panic on him. Can you tell this has happened several times?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by lostmyway21

I go twice a week and at the mention of ever changing that I freak out... He does say I can't see him twice a week for the rest of my life, and I simply reply, yes I can. And then he shakes his head and says that's not progress.

what is his problem with this? I have been a 3-time a week-er most of my adult life. So I don't make progress, so what. at least I am staying alive and in one (okay, big) piece!

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by hankster

what is his problem with this? I have been a 3-time a week-er most of my adult life. So I don't make progress, so what. at least I am staying alive and in one (okay, big) piece!

I don't know. well besides my insurance company not going to cover 2x week for the rest of my life, he says something like I need to start relying on him less eventually blah blah blah....it's never going to happen.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by lostmyway21

I don't know. well besides my insurance company not going to cover 2x week for the rest of my life, he says something like I need to start relying on him less eventually blah blah blah....it's never going to happen.

meh! insurance companies change, T's change, but i'm always the same crazy person

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by hankster

meh! insurance companies change, T's change, but i'm always the same crazy person

Hm now I'm pissed at T...and I'm going to take it out on him in 15 minutes. Why does it matter if I see him once or twice a week?! Let's just traumatize lost to make "progress".

[stopdog]

You go. Good luck with it.

[bipolarmedstudent]

Originally Posted by lostmyway21

Hm now I'm pissed at T...and I'm going to take it out on him in 15 minutes. Why does it matter if I see him once or twice a week?! Let's just traumatize lost to make "progress".

I think the schedule should be flexible. Like, if you are doing really well for a few months, maybe you cut back to once a week. And then if something stressful in your life happens (like a break up or death of a relative) then you see your T twice a week for a while. That's how I've always done it. When I felt really unstable I would see my pdoc as often as once a week. When I felt good and everything was going well for me, I would cut back to as little as once a month. That way I don't become unneccessarily dependent on my T, but they are there for me when I need them.

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by stopdog

You go. Good luck with it.

That didn't go as planned. It was emotional. I cried, he was supportive. I argued that I wanted to see him 2x forever. He told me he wouldn't be doing his job as my T if he didn't try and move me towards progress. He asked if I was trying to keep him forever, I admitted I was. He told me I can come back to him until he retires, and always email as needed. When I left he wrote.." I will not abandon you." on one of his appt cards. I'm emotionally drained.

[For real]

Yer gotta agree therapy is supposed to be a very individual thing. It supposed to be tailored to fit the needs of the client.. us