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It'll be great when you get to see her again, because when you walk out you will not feel ashamed.. you won't feel sad, you'll feel understood.. warmed.. like you matter. And as an aside - they do care between sessions. Yes, they are paid for their time, but you can't buy the process wherein they carry us in their heart. It took a long time for me to see that. Bit by bit over time, there were repeated occasions where I found out one way or another that my therapist had thought about me, worried about me, planned things for me, and just basically carried me in her mind and heart. You can't buy that.
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I wish a similar experience for you. In the meantime, leave it open. Once she explains her reasoning behind her response, you may interpret it very differently. I wish that for you.
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I can understand how hurtful it can be for your T not to respond in a different way from how she did. That she didn't try to convince you to come back and talk things out, or to continue seeing her. (not that this is what you wanted, but what you got is not what you wanted) However, the ethical guidelines that she practices by do not allow her to do this. For her to respond in trying to get you to come back would be unethical of her to do. It is up to the client to decide whether to come back or not without the influence of the therapist. This is part of protecting the autonomy of the client. It isn't that therapist's don't care. It is about them respecting your right to chose your own treatment at any point.
You mentioned that your T is leaving on vacation. This is a really big trigger for a lot of people. I wonder if you saying you weren't going to come back was you trying to leave her before she could leave you (ie go on vacation). You wanted to prove to her that she couldn't hurt you by leaving. Just a thought. |
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It sounds like that is the standard response really. I do understand that it feels quite hurtful though. I'm not someone who acts impulsively and I'd seen my T for 3 years before the first and only time I said to her "I don't know if I can return". Her response was "okay up to you" and that was it. I'm really attached to her...so I do know it's hard to hear it said like that. From continuing to work with my T I do think she probably would have liked me to return, well I hope so! I'm hard work and she's continued to help me and be really patient and kind and caring...and she's told me that she cares, so even though I'm certain she'd never fight for me to return, it doesn't mean that she doesn't care.
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Not "send", take.
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You mentioned that your T is leaving on vacation. This is a really big trigger for a lot of people. I wonder if you saying you weren't going to come back was you trying to leave her before she could leave you (ie go on vacation). You wanted to prove to her that she couldn't hurt you by leaving. Just a thought.[/QUOTE]
Yep, i think you're right, there may have been an element of that. Quote:
This made me laugh, great advice tho. |
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