[rainbow8]

I didn't put a trigger because I'm only thinking of "not so terrible reasons" though this could be triggering. If it is, I'm sorry. This is supposed to be comic relief. Sort of, anyway. I mentioned to my H that maybe my T decided to stay on her vacation another week. He said, "Yeah, she decided she needed more of a break from you!" He wasn't being mean this time. I laughed and said I was going to start a thread. NOTE: I'm making this all up!! I did not hear from my T but how do I know something won't happen?

So, I thought of some reasons she won't come back on time, some serious, some funny I hope. Or maybe this is dark humor and I need to do it.

1. Her daughter met someone and decided to get married in another country, so of course T can't come home yet! She's got to plan a wedding.
2. T suffered a minor injury trying to climb a mountain so she needs to rest up before she comes home.
3. She loves it so much that she decided it's worth staying another week, and her clients will just have to survive. (She's too dedicated to do that)
4. They lost their return tickets and have to reschedule.
5. They got kidnapped by a UFO.
6. Someone got an ear or sinus infection so they can't fly. (that's a real fear)
7. Her H loved it so much he convinced her to stay.
8. She lost her camera and it's very important to her, so they have to stay until they find it.
9. They got too sunburned and can't walk.
10. They found a cheap house there and decided to move.

Hmm. Most are not so funny but not so likely either.

Anyone want to add some or should I delete this thread?

oops, changed my mind about the trigger just in case. Sorry.

[gma45]

These are some good excuses rainbow8. It is funny in a way how are mind can think of all kinds of things. Have you tried to call her? Do you have an appt. scheduled for when she returns? She's maybe back and just busy trying to get caught up after being on vacation. Everyone deserves a vacation no matter the profession. Or maybe..............

[WikidPissah]

she decided to join a commune

[granite1]

she got to the airport and broke her shoe running to the terminal because she was trying to get passed TSA and it took way to long because she kept setting the machine off do to the fact that she had a head band in her hair that was metal.when she finely got a pair of slippers and got to the terminal it was too late for her and her husband to sit together on the plane.so she was upset and frustrated when she sat to Waite to board the plane. but finely it was time to board the plane. after she found a seat that was several rows in front of her husband she leaned down to grab her wallet out of her pocket book so she could get some money to purchase a drink after take off.she discovered her pocket book was gone. now really worked up she jumps u[p and calls for the attendant.she yells that she has left her pocket book bye the chair she was sitting at in the terminal.the stewardess called to the desk to have them look.but the doors to the plane were still open and people were still boarding so frantically T runs off the plain to look for her pocketbook.knowing her id,money car keys and ticket to get the car are all in it.she gets to terminal and finds no pocket book.she goes to the desk and loudly demands that security be called that someone had stolen her pocket book.swearing to herself.bye this time all passengers have boarded the plane.they wanted to close the door and asked T who was swearing and complaining about how horrible people are ,if she was going to board the plane?after a few choice words the T boarded the plane without her pocket book.clearly upset.and sat in her seat.at this point she remembered her husband a few rows back who was watching in amazement at the whole scene,she barked at the attendant,I need to go check on my husband,she jumped up and walked back to her husband to find that he had grabbed the pocket book long ago so she wouldn't forget it on the floor next to the seat in the terminal.quietly T sat back in her seat and flew home went in her room to hide for the next week until the embarrassment went away.

[WikidPissah]

ha ha Granite

[granite1]

not that anything like this would ever happen to me LOL

[Perna]

Did it help, rainbow, the thread and thinking up the reasons? I always get a proverb/quote, "you can never get enough of what you don't really want" that wanders around in my head at times like this and the one reason that actually happened when T didn't come back was that she was visiting her home/parents and her mother died during that visit so she stayed an extra week.

She did not tell me at the time (1996) that is what she was doing/what happened; I just had her go away saying she'd be back X day and then a stranger (not an office or "official" caller, I think a member of her family) calling me the week before X day saying it would be XX day instead because, "there has been a death in the family". I did not know who died until last week, when I was reading something about her online and saw her mother died then.

Having had such an actual bad thing happen does help me now a bit, I don't go so far into the future and do the "wonder what if" thing, to reassure myself or ward off the bad stuff or "practice" in case bad stuff happens.

[venusss]

a gang of bank robbers took her hostage. The cops gave chase. They got away... but she caused a crash. When she came to, she'd lost her memory. An ex-con picked her up, mistook her for a fugitive, and shipped her to Istanbul. There she met some Afghan raiders who took her to steal some Russian warheads. But their truck hit a mine in Tajikistan. She survived, took to the hills, and became a Mujaheddin.


(that is from Amelie, if you didn't recognize. But it could happen to anybody. Anybody...)

[rainbow8]

gma, my T isn't due back until Tuesday. I just got into my worrying mode and thought I'd try something different. Not sure if it helped or not.

Wiki,

granite, now why couldn't I think of that? You are very creative. You made me laugh!!!!

Perna, that must have been awful!! How did it help you? I think it would make me worry more that these things DO happen.

VenusHalley,

[granite1]

because i really did this lol it was so funny after the fact can you just see me freaking out histerically in the airport and on the plaine LOL

[rainbow8]

Oh, granite. I'm sorry. I'm sure that wasn't at all funny at the time!!! I really thought you made it up!!! I'm glad you made the plane and your H had your purse!!

[critterlady]

Granite, I can totally see myself doing that same thing.

At least it was a situation where you're not likely to ever see those people again!

I bet your T met someone soooo in need of therapy, she couldn't leave.

[Yoda]

reasons my T won't be coming back

1 she has a gambling problem and has moved to Las Vegas

2 she thinks she is funny and she is travelling the country doing stand up comedy

3 she wants to write a book about homeless people so she has decided to live on the streets for the next year

4 she is in jail for a crime her twin sister committed

5 she has amnesia

6 she got run over at the running of the bulls

[rainbow_rose]

she has decided to change careers and become a clown - and join the circus!

[CantExplain]

She's been cited as a correspondent in a divorce case and can't leave until the the hearing is over.

[sittingatwatersedge]

1. (good news) she won the lottery and intends to spend every dime before she comes back (a stretch to have it all spent by Tuesday, )

2. (not so good news) she isn't really T, she was placed there years ago as a cover by a witness protection agency, and now she has to move on to another name in another city .... you will go back on Tues and find a different woman (in the same protection plan), calling herself by yr T's name and expecting you to go along with it

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge

you will go back on Tues and find a different woman (in the same protection plan), calling herself by yr T's name and expecting you to go along with it

Twilight Zone T!

an I thought granite's story was a Lifetime movie!

[Perna]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I think it would make me worry more that these things DO happen.

That's just it; you quit worrying altogether because you know things like that can happen. You just wait, look and see what actually does happen, knowing what will happen will happen and speculating about it just makes and wastes nervous energy. Think about this on Tuesday when you are with your T and how you "could" have felt or what you could have done if you hadn't spent time worrying?

Worrying is uncomfortable to me so when I start, I immediately look for something to do so I won't be concentrating on the worrying. I don't like lying awake worrying about the dust on the door lintels and speculating about being a lonely, little old (well, not so "little" :-) lady who has a hard time caring for herself. So I think of tasks to do to counteract that.

When I'm worrying about T, I think of why I'm going to T -- to be able to be a warm, wise, whimsical, strong, woman who knows herself and enjoys her life and I think about when T said she'd be back and think about that session we will have and what I'll want to talk to her about and, whatever it is, I look and see how I'm doing with that subject, what I'm doing with that subject right now. Worrying takes time and energy. I'm unwilling to spend my time and energy in that occupation anymore; I refuse! Yes I'm worried something might happen to T but that is not ALL I am. I'm also interested in losing 20 pounds and getting in shape to walk a couple miles easily so I'd better get out there and start walking now.

Its good to see you have such a good attitude. You are DEFINITELY doing better than I am about my T being gone-- I admire your strength

[rainbow8]

SarahMichelle, I actually was in a bad mood when I started this thread. I thought it might help. I wouldn't be able to cope if I were in your situation. I'd probably get a new T if it were me. I know you tried that and it didn't work. YOU are the strong one, not me.

[rainbow8]

Originally Posted by Perna

That's just it; you quit worrying altogether because you know things like that can happen. You just wait, look and see what actually does happen, knowing what will happen will happen and speculating about it just makes and wastes nervous energy. Think about this on Tuesday when you are with your T and how you "could" have felt or what you could have done if you hadn't spent time worrying?

Worrying is uncomfortable to me so when I start, I immediately look for something to do so I won't be concentrating on the worrying. I don't like lying awake worrying about the dust on the door lintels and speculating about being a lonely, little old (well, not so "little" :-) lady who has a hard time caring for herself. So I think of tasks to do to counteract that.

When I'm worrying about T, I think of why I'm going to T -- to be able to be a warm, wise, whimsical, strong, woman who knows herself and enjoys her life and I think about when T said she'd be back and think about that session we will have and what I'll want to talk to her about and, whatever it is, I look and see how I'm doing with that subject, what I'm doing with that subject right now. Worrying takes time and energy. I'm unwilling to spend my time and energy in that occupation anymore; I refuse! Yes I'm worried something might happen to T but that is not ALL I am. I'm also interested in losing 20 pounds and getting in shape to walk a couple miles easily so I'd better get out there and start walking now.

Your post is helpful, Perna. I HAVE tried to occupy myself with many different activities during this time without T, and I've been fairly successful. I don't think my worry has been active, as much as an underlying fear and a feeling that "something is missing" without her. But you're right. T is not my whole life. I have other people in my life, like grandchildren, and interests that T does not have.

I know that but part of me feels that she can't live without T. Part of me wanted to slip into her family and be another daughter on her trip. Parts are very jealous that she had this vacation and I didn't. I know those are feelings to explore with her. They're too big not to. The way I coped was to not think of details about where she was. I couldn't handle that because it made me angry, jealous, and sad. I didn't want to picture her with her family going sightseeing. It hurt way too much. I have to discuss it because I have a lot of resentment, and I know it's got to be about the past and me, not about my T. She certainly deserved this vacation. It's hard to have all these feelings I don't want to have.

Tomorrow I'm going to email her and ask for a response, to say she's back, and confirm my appointment for Wednesday. I know she may not get back until tomorrow night, and I may not hear from her until Wednesday morning. I won't be disappointed, but I know she won't object to writing that she's back.

[Wren_]

I wondered if SarahMichelles ( to SarahMichelle!) experience was actually one reason you worried Rainbow?

[Chopin99]

I was counting down the days with you. I know you have 2 and I have 3. But I've had a change of heart. For the past couple of days, I don't care if I ever go back.

But that's a story for another thread...

I'm glad you're handling things so well, rainbow.