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Old May 07, 2012, 07:51 AM
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How does this process usually go? Or is there a process?

I've been remembering a few incidental bits from my CSA -- most specifically, the name of the person(s) involved. Remembering that, in and of itself, isn't too upsetting. But I wonder if it's like a "foreshock" (for those of you familiar with earthquakes) and there is a big one coming?

Do people tend to recover things in bits and pieces? Or in chunks? I remembered the csa in a huge chunk when I was 19. Now I'm starting to remember little things here and there -- especially when I'm NOT thinking about them. I assume this is all "normal" but I definitely don't like not being in control of these thoughts. That's pretty darned scary.
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Old May 07, 2012, 08:09 AM
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I wish I could help, but I'm going through the same thing. My mind keeps feeding me the most random details at the oddest times. It's like they creep in my head and float around in the background. I eventually realize something like "Well crap, I've been thinking about that window for the past 4 days. Where did I see that window?"

I feel like I'm slowly driving myself CRAZY. Although, from a totally intellectual point of view, it is fascinating. If only it wasn't so annoying and strange.
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Old May 07, 2012, 08:46 AM
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For me, it was like putting together the clues in a life-long mystery novel. But my issue is more CPTSD (chronic) from neglect, and verbal and visual SA, and fairly limited physical CSA. Someone else here wrote about how everyone talked behind her back about her assault when she was a teenager - I felt like everyone was talking about something, I didn't know what, from very early on. I finally figured out SOME of the things they were talking about, and boy am I pissed. Sorry if this isn't much help, but if this involved family at all, I would say be prepared for a coverup of Watergate proportions!
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Old May 07, 2012, 08:46 AM
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I'm not familiar with CSA, is it Criminal Sexual Assult? Anyway, I was raped and I know that I've recently been remembering things myself. My 1 year anniversary is comming up, and I'm really nervous things are going to get worse before they get better. My t did tell me that remembering things is normal and it's going to happen.

Not sure how much help I was, but at least you know you aren't alone.
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Old May 07, 2012, 08:54 AM
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" Although, from a totally intellectual point of view, it is fascinating."

It is, isn't it?! Ha ha! But yeah -- no fun.
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Old May 07, 2012, 09:03 AM
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yea, I see random objects for several weeks, just out of the blue. Then suddenly it will open up and I remember what/where the object is from. Panic ensues and it is really hard to regulate because of course it will be at an inappropriate time. Sat down in a restaurant over the weekend with H and mother and she said something, cue up the object I've been seeing, now entire event is in my head and we just ordered lunch. "um....where's the restroom?"
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Old May 07, 2012, 09:06 AM
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i have never forgot any part of the CSA.i seem to remember every bit of it in detail.don't know what it is like if you don't remember i wish i could forget it.i'm sorry that these memories and comming back and bothering
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Old May 07, 2012, 10:02 AM
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I believe thoughts are like dreams; they are wholly ours and part of our unconscious, which is on our side! You won't remember anything "before its time". The more I include all my myself in my life; my body, my mind, my emotions, the more comfortable and in control I feel.
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Old May 07, 2012, 10:07 AM
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i have never forgot any part of the CSA.i seem to remember every bit of it in detail.don't know what it is like if you don't remember i wish i could forget it.i'm sorry that these memories and comming back and bothering
Granite I remember it as well, but it went on for a long time, there were multiple people and it started very young. A lot of my memories are clear but hazy...and I don't remember a lot of detail, just general icky stuff. The flashbacks that come now are specific details.
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Old May 07, 2012, 01:05 PM
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How does this process usually go? Or is there a process?

I've been remembering a few incidental bits from my CSA -- most specifically, the name of the person(s) involved. Remembering that, in and of itself, isn't too upsetting. But I wonder if it's like a "foreshock" (for those of you familiar with earthquakes) and there is a big one coming?

Do people tend to recover things in bits and pieces? Or in chunks? I remembered the csa in a huge chunk when I was 19. Now I'm starting to remember little things here and there -- especially when I'm NOT thinking about them. I assume this is all "normal" but I definitely don't like not being in control of these thoughts. That's pretty darned scary.
people remember things at what ever rate and how ever works best for you..

example

I remember things best when I am in a calm natural surrounding ie when Im caming, boating hiking...

my wife remembers things when she is under a lot of stress ie she remembered someone abusive and the event while getting stressed out over something at work.

I know someone who remembers best when they are asked questions by their treatment providers.

I know someone who remembers best when he is painting,

the list is endless of how people remember their traumas they under went ...

suggestion try to breath and try to take your time and you will find what works best for you.
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