Just wanted to share from this blog

I know this is so true of me and what I spent a great deal of time working on during my session yesterday. Just thought I would share.

http://whatashrinkthinks.com/2011/06/13/enactment/

That was almost poetic

Wow. So true. Thanks for sharing!

Definitely true for me too. I wish my T were better at actually working with it rather than avoiding it.

How did things go at your session, doogie? Did you ever hear back from your T?

Thanks, Doogie, that was a good read.

My T bought this up early on in my therapy. He told me that however my other relationships are, is probably how ours will be. When (not if!) we identify something going wrong, we'll deal with it head on. I tend to pull back from intimate relationships, because I have some serious trust issues. When I feel that happening with him, we'll tackle it and push through it.

I was glad to hear him talk about it, since I hear of so many Ts that essentially avoid dealing with stuff like that.

Oh, this is excellent! Thanks so much for sharing. I was especially struck by this:

I think I need to cross-stitch this on a (large) pillow and read it every day.

I think I would like to see a T with this mindset. Mind you, it sounds scary, but I bet it would be good for me.

But, you see, in order to conquer this the T has to, HAS TO, be available in some form outside of one hour a week.

I don't think necessarily so. My T does not respond to email (I asked) unless it's emergency or scheduling issues. He's available by phone in an emergency. We've managed to work through a couple of ruptures using the 1 session per week I have. That means I have to "sit" with emotions that come up until the next session, but when I bring them up that's when we work on them.

I don't think the shrink meant that something has to be dealt with the very instant that it comes up, but has to recognized and dealt with.

Could you elaborate what you mean?

do T's have some like infinite capacity for intimacy? thats all i hear about therapy.....its about being intimate (ewww word!)...being close...getting to that point blah blah blah....how do they do that hour after hour with person after person? or is it normal to be able to do that and i am a minority sitting over here going "i need to be what? intimate? that just sounds gross!"