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May 12, 2012, 12:03 PM
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Oh thank God.
Spent most of the 2 hours talking with T1 about our relationship and therapy. Basically, what exactly are we doing here? We talked, again, about boundaries. Specifically time boundaries. I explained that I was trying to be super careful about his time and boundaries. That when every interaction with me included his mentioning how much time we had I felt hurt. I told him that because I cared about him I respected his boundaries. He thought for a bit and said perhaps he was projecting onto me. He said that he has clients who have zero respect for his time -- and that when a client engages him even though he has been clear that their time is over it makes it impossible for him to be available to the next client. Of course I understand that -- that's one of the reasons I try to be so careful. So it turns out I'm not actually trampling his boundaries -- I was just picking up on his sensitivity about it and thinking I must have been doing something wrong. There are many more amazingly healing things we discussed. I'll share them little by little as it would take hours to write (and for you to read) it all. I am finally, finally more relaxed and hopeful. I feel like I've turned a major corner here. And although I know there are bound to be more ruptures in the future, I can't believe how well this has turned out. Beyond anything I expected. |
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#2
May 12, 2012, 12:33 PM
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That's wonderful, Jen. I'm so glad you could talk to him about the specific issues.
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May 12, 2012, 12:59 PM
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That is good to hear, I hope that your relationship with your T only improves from here!
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May 12, 2012, 01:04 PM
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That is so fabulous, Jenluv! There's nothing so powerful as being so fearful of the unknown, and fearful of the potential disaster.. but going ahead and talking through it all.. and the therapist being able to bring us to resolution like that. That's where we really start discovering how effective it can be (when dealing with healthy people anyways) to just be open.. to speak our fears.. and to get a response whereby we find out that they "see" who we are, and that what we feared does not happen.
I'm just so happy for you.
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May 12, 2012, 02:13 PM
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you go girl!!!!
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May 12, 2012, 02:50 PM
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Very good job! It takes hard work to be honest in therapy and do what is needed to make the therapy relationship healthy. It allows us to understand how to make other relationships healthy.
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May 12, 2012, 02:53 PM
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very happy for you ♥
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May 12, 2012, 03:15 PM
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good job jenluv!
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May 12, 2012, 03:40 PM
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Very cool. Thanks for sharing this.
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May 12, 2012, 04:21 PM
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sounds like a wonderful discussion!
I'm so pleased for you!
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~ 
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